BM dresses: Matching, not matching, somehwere in between?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What option did you choose for BM's dresses?
    BM(s) all wore the same dress : (37 votes)
    35 %
    BM(s) chose from a small subset of dress options, or chose their own cut in the same fabric : (22 votes)
    21 %
    BM(s) all wore different dress, but I chose them/gave heavy input : (4 votes)
    4 %
    BM(s) chose their own dress, based on some criteria (ex. must be pink) : (35 votes)
    33 %
    BM(s) chose their own dress, no criteria : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Other and I'll explain : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wanted to pick one DB BM dress color (and floor length), but one of my BMs was 38 weeks pregnant and they didn’t have any dresses that would fit her!

    So instead we just went with “blue”.

    Post # 4
    487 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    They all (I have 2 BM and my MOH) picked their own dress in a relatively coral-ish color. They are 3 different, amazing women with 3 different, amazing body types and I wanted them comfortable. Plus they all had different budgets, so they could control their expense.


    I’m excited to see how they all look on the day of!

    Post # 5
    6812 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m sending my moh w a bmp to pick out the dress they will all wear (4 girls). My only requirement is that it’s long and a nice shade of mint.

    Post # 6
    2134 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I found the color and fabric I liked (Alfred Sung Paradise) and they could choose whatever dress they wanted that came in that color.  I loved the way it looked, and it was so important to me that my girls wore a dress that they felt good in!

    Post # 7
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I initially found a dress I fell in love with, but did not come in a size 16 for my one plus-sized bridesmaid:and after not being able to find something similar, anywhere, and after dealing with the opinions of my future MIL and her two daughters (two of my bridesmaids) who hated everything they saw, I eventually just said fluff it – Everyone go to David’s Bridal, pick a knee-length chiffon dress in the color iris, and let me know which one you’re ordering so I can cross it off the list.


    I didn’t get a single complaint after that!


    Post # 9
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I chose one dress for my sister who is my maid of honor and a second dress for my three bridesmaids. The dresses are very similar except that my sister’s dress is strapless so they complement each other nicely.

    Post # 10
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t like the look of mismatched BM dresses so I chose one dress for all my BMs to wear. 

    Post # 11
    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I picked infinity dresses. So all the BMs will wear the same dress but they can style it any way they like! 

    Post # 12
    918 posts
    Busy bee

    My bridesmaids are all wearing the same dress.  I provided a selection of dresses that I liked and that I was willing to pay for, and between the three of them they decided which one they would wear.  Actually, they narrowed it down to two, and then I decided to go with the less expensive of the two.

    Post # 13
    1646 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    my bridesmaids have a ton of freedom in what they wear. If it’s a shade of blue (just not electric blue) than they are good to go. I want to go shopping ndividually with each bridesmaid though, just for the experience! 

    Post # 14
    340 posts
    Helper bee

    My bridesmaids (3) have different body types. They will all be wearing 3 different dresses in the same color/fabric. They dresses are all somewhat similar and strapless. I let them pick the dress that they felt most comfortable in.

    Post # 15
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I prefer mismatched dresses in shades of the same color and I prefer non-“bridesmaid” dresses, so I picked a neutral color (I was choosing between black, grey/silver, and nude/beige/taupes and got input from a few of them), set general length (short), and style (cocktail), then put a bunch of possibilities on a Pinterest board. It’s been great and has helped some bridesmaids to get expensive dresses for way on sale. They’ll all just double-check w me before it’s too late to return and can even wear a dress they already own. 

    We’re doing the same thing for shoes too. It’s working really well so far and I’ve gotten no complaints. 

    Post # 16
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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