Post # 1
An old girlfriend from highschool called last night and told me she could not be in the wedding anymore. She could not afford it. I understand. We have not been close in awhile. So now what do I do? How do I ask someone else and not make them feel like sloppy seconds? Do I ask someone else?? I have 2 girls in mind but how do I even go about asking them? EEK!
Post # 3
Me personally…I would not ask someone else. If you didn’t want to ask them initially, then you probably deep down don’t really want them in the wedding in the first place. If that’s the case, don’t feel the need to replace the missing bridesmaid, there is no set number of attendents in a wedding and you both sides don’t need to match in numbers, either.
Post # 4
All you can do is ask. Don’t be nervous……… take the step.
Post # 5
I AGREE with not asking someone else..a few days ago one of my bridesmaids just told me she is pregnant and do within 3 days of my wedding – we are just going to play it day by day – she most likely wont’ make it and said I could fill her spot = I’m not going to though.
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think it depends on the girl’s personality…Would they be upset knowing that they weren’t originally asked? I understand people suggesting not replacing her and I think that’s good advice but I would also see the other side…I have a few friends that I wish I could have asked to be bridesmaids but FH and I wanted to keep our party small…So if you think they won’t be insulted (and make sure to explain the situation!) then ask!
Post # 7
I had a bridesmaid drop out for exactly the same reason. I was sad but totally undertand especially since she lives across the country so she’s have to miss a couple of days of work and also spring for airfare. I’m not going to ask anyone else although I have a few I think I could ask. I wouldn’t want them to think they were on the B list.
There’s going to be uneven sides now but don’t care. A couple of the guys are wondering who’s going to be the lucky dude that gets to walk with 2 girls on his arm.
Post # 8
I think you should talk it over with the FI, do un-even parties bother either of you? If not I say don’t worry about something that’s out of your control.
But if you really want to ask the other girl- ask her, it’s still an honor (if you think she’d be okay with it).
Post # 9
… do you really need to have another bridesmaid? I’m sure that while both girls you have in mind will say yes, they’ll be a little bit hurt that they weren’t on the A list. In my mind, it would be better to just have them do something else in the ceremony rather than know that they were your second choice.
Post # 10
I don’t think I would ask someone else either. I would hate to be asked to be a bridesmaid and know that I was the second choice.
I think uneven wedding parties are perfectly fine. I have 2 girls and my FI has just his best man.