(Closed) BM Etiquette: Would you be irritated?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: If a BM wore her BM's dress before the wedding, I would feel:
    Fine with it, who cares, its just a dress. : (13 votes)
    33 %
    Irritated, but its her dress, she paid for it, she can do what she wants. : (16 votes)
    41 %
    Mad, it violates etiquette and its rude. : (10 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Irritated, because you’re right it’s hers but she bought it FOR a specific purpose. For this very reason (I read a similar post a while back) I’m thinking of offering to keep my BMs dresses for them up until the wedding.

    Post # 4
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d be irritated for sure, but hey – at least you know she loves the dress!

    Post # 5
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    1183 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Personally…I wouldn’t care. As long as she has it dry cleaned for the wedding…it’s just like you said…it’s her dress, she paid for it, and I’m just glad she liked it enough to get some wear out of the thing! 😀

    Post # 6
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    1253 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d be a little bit irritated, for sure. I would be so glad that BM liked her dress, but I would wish that she’d wait until after the wedding before wearing it, and then taking pics of her wearing it.

    Post # 7
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    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would not be happy. But I bought my bridesmaids dresses. I would be worried that they may stain it or something.

    Post # 8
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    410 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Thinking as a former BM 7x over, and having purchased 7 dresses I had no desire to ever wear again. I’d like to think I would have been fine with it and, as stated above, flattered even. I do think it would have been cool of your BM to have been straight with you about it though. Maybe I’m assuming, but it sounds like she went about the situation with a little shadyness.

    Also, anyone who sees the dress out of context on FB, will not remember or realize it’s the same dress at the wedding when they see everyone together.

    Post # 10
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    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I actually did this to my friend a year ago when I was her BM. We bought black dresses (in different styles) from J Crew. In my opinion they were way too expensive for what they were… so I decided to wear my dress to FBIL’s wedding. I had the dress on in my facebook picture for months. She mentioned to me that I wore the dress, but never really said much about it. I didn’t really care if she was mad or not because it was my expensive black dress to wear, and it looked fine on her wedding day. I’m not into the whole “revealing of the dress” unless it’s the bride. Oh well 🙂

    Btw, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be irritated. Just telling you my story.

    Post # 11
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    916 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I care zero percent!

    Post # 13
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    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I wouldn’t care, I don’t think. I think a BM dress has a COMPLETELY different effect when it is on a bunch of BMs lined up in a wedding, than when it is out in the world on its own. It will look like a whole new dress at the wedding.

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