Post # 1
Hi bee’s so when we set our wedding date a year ago one of my BMs was dating a guy but neither we nor our close friends had anything to do with him. They broke up not long afterwards and he has wormed his way into our circle of friends, now living with one of the GM and working with my partner. He has assumed he is invited to the wedding and apparantly talks about it constantly at work. My partner doesn’t like conflict so just brushes it off. The thing is we have absolutely nothing in common with this guy we dont hang out with him and if we do go to his house it is to visit/have tea with our mate/GM & MC and the other fella is just there. I do not want to invite him, my partner feels obligated to but even the GMs are saying they wouldn’t invite him. He’s very manipulative and he does not get along with his ex and it would only make uncomfortable for everyone. How do we tell him he’s not actually invited
Post # 3
Don’t invite him. If he asks, just say something like, “I’m sorry, we weren’t able to invite everyone.”
Post # 4
Don’t do anything. If he does talk about the wedding in front of you try to steer the conversation elsewhere, brush it off and say “Oh we haven’t finalized a lot of details yet.” He should get the idea when no invite arrives, but if he doesn’t just explain that you had to limit the guest list due to budget/venue size. He doesn’t need anymore details.
Post # 5
Yes…just don’t invite him at all and hope he get’s the message. I don’t understand people feeling bad about not inviting casual acquaintances to their wedding. My SO and I have agreed we are not inviting anyone to our wedding other than close, immediate family and very very close friends, and we will not feel bad about that either. It’s too intimate and important of an occasion to be having random people there who we felt obligated to invite.
Next time he brings up the wedding at work could your FI somehow slip into the conversation that it will be limited to family and very close friends only?
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Do nothing. He’ll get the hint when he doesn’t receive an invite. If he asks you why he didn’t get one (which would be rude on his part), just tell him that you couldn’t extend an invite to him. If he persists, I would say that your guest list is final. Actually, i would let your partner handle this instead of you.
Post # 7
If he asks directly then you can say that unfortunately you will not be inviting him, otherwise he’ll get the hint when he doesn’t get an invite in the mail. Don’t confront it directly unless he does first. And if that happens make sure the talk happens in private.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone else, don’t send him an invitation. You shouldn’t feel obligated to invite him to your wedding. It’s your wedding, not his.