(Closed) BM ex boyfriend / work mate assumes he is invited! HELP

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3740 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t invite him. If he asks, just say something like, “I’m sorry, we weren’t able to invite everyone.”

Post # 4
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Don’t do anything.  If he does talk about the wedding in front of you try to steer the conversation elsewhere, brush it off and say “Oh we haven’t finalized a lot of details yet.” He should get the idea when no invite arrives, but if he doesn’t just explain that you had to limit the guest list due to budget/venue size.  He doesn’t need anymore details.

Post # 5
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2170 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Jaxx90:  

Yes…just don’t invite him at all and hope he get’s the message. I don’t understand people feeling bad about not inviting casual acquaintances to their wedding. My SO and I have agreed we are not inviting anyone to our wedding other than close, immediate family and very very close friends, and we will not feel bad about that either. It’s too intimate and important of an occasion to be having random people there who we felt obligated to invite.

Next time he brings up the wedding at work could your FI somehow slip into the conversation that it will be limited to family and very close friends only?

Post # 6
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1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Do nothing.  He’ll get the hint when he doesn’t receive an invite.  If he asks you why he didn’t get one (which would be rude on his part), just tell him that you couldn’t extend an invite to him.  If he persists, I would say that your guest list is final.  Actually, i would let your partner handle this instead of you.

Post # 7
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2290 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

If he asks directly then you can say that unfortunately you will not be inviting him, otherwise he’ll get the hint when he doesn’t get an invite in the mail. Don’t confront it directly unless he does first. And if that happens make sure the talk happens in private.

Post # 8
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2873 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with everyone else, don’t send him an invitation. You shouldn’t feel obligated to invite him to your wedding. It’s your wedding, not his.

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