BM gift = to spending?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Sort of, but only because my bms don’t really have any expenses.

I’m paying for all dresses/shoes/clutches/jewelry, hair & makeup.

One bm lives within a 10 minute drive, so she won’t have a hotel/flight. The other bm is the grooms sister, and also underage, so her parents will be covering that.

Because of this, and because I don’t expect anything of them but to show up & smile.. I’m not getting them an over-the-top gift.

Probably just a gift card and a thank you card or something.

However, even if your bms are spending a TON I dont think brides should be obligated to spend TONS. Spend what you feel you can afford, and what you feel your bridesmaids desrve [based on participation, ect].

Post # 4
Member
918 posts
Busy bee

@jenilynevette:  +1

Also sort of, for the same reason.  I’m not asking my bridesmaids to spend anything, and I’m getting them all a small gift.  I suppose that if they were having to spend money then I would feel obliged to get a more substantial gift?  Haven’t really thought about it.

Post # 6
Member
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SparkleBee11:  I got my MOH a hostess gift for the shower as her someghing extra and got another friend who did the bachelorette a hostess gift as well. I figure thats where they spent the extra money and besides that everyone is getting the same stuff so no one feels akward. I have 5 local bridesmaids and 2 traveling far away and I am not getting extra stuff for the two who travelled because they are people (a sister and a best friend since we were 1) who would have made the trip to the wedding anyway and the friend’s parents are paying for her travel. I think in general its good to get everyone equal gifts. I got all of my bridesmaids necklaces (for everyday not for the wedding) as part of their gift and they are all the same price but are different based on what that girl likes but cost and volume/type I tried to keep consistent! 

Post # 7
Member
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@SparkleBee11:  I bought my girls dresses. They can wear whatever shoes they want, and we aren’t doing professional hair and makeup. So, they just need to show up, put on the dress, brush their hair, and smile. They are getting a hanger with their name and a personalized tumbler with a note. I’m hoping thats enough for them! I’m on a budget.

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