- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have 4 not-bridesmaids as I’ve been calling them who are close female friends who have been helping me throughout the wedding. They are “not-bridesmaids” because we are not having a processional and they are not getting matching dresses, carrying flowers or anything like that, but they did take it upon themselves to plan a bachelorette party and whatnot, and they’ve all helped me throughout the process with various tasks. As such, I am getting them some gifts (of course!) I got each girl a small piece of jewelry (not to be worn on the day and worth about $40) and a monogrammed hankie, as well as paying for them all to get their hair done for roughly $150 a piece.
In addition, two of the girls helped me a TON and are playing a huge part in the wedding- one of them is flying in from cali (and even flew in for my bachelorette party) and got ordained and registered in NYC to officiate our wedding. She is also writing the whole ceremony and planning the logistics of it. We got her a pearl necklace for about $400. The other girl is my closest friend, has a masters in art and LOVES projects- she has volunteered to do SO much work- from addressing all my invitations to making all my chalkboard signs to creating my color pallette and making all of the flowers for my wedding. She and her husband REFUSE to give us a quote for all the work but FI and I are going to hide cash in their gifts because, srsly, she’s spending probably 30 hours on all of this stuff and she usually charges at least 1k for this amount of work. I got her the same gifts as the girls above, but I’m going to put $400 in cash in the box (and she can just take it and like it because she needs the money, not a set of pearls ha)
If the girls open their gifts together, it will be really obvious that they are different (the pearls appraised at $1k and are beautiful.) But I feel like opening them together is part of the fun, and I won’t see all of them before we get ready togther that day.
An option I thought of is seperating the gifts and having them open the jewelry alone and the hankies together, but that sounds pretty lame. OR I could make the hankie gifts a bit more fun and make little gift bags with them in it for each of them but god…my brain is about tapped as far as ideas go for gifts.
THOUGHTS? I don’t want to be rude or make anyone jealous (although truely everyone knows whose doing what and they’re all not expecting gifts at all, but I dont want the two big gift recievers to feel awkward either.)