Post # 1
Am I suppose to pay for my bridesmaids’ hair and/or make up? At $65 (hair) each we can’t afford 7!
Should I ask if they’d like to pay themselves? I’m afraid the girls still in school won’t be able to afford it. If I don’t offer that option I’m afraid the other girls will feel like I’m being cheap and expect it.
What to do?
Post # 3
Do the girls have to all have their hair a certain way? If you can’t afford it, maybe you should let them do their own hair in a simple way.
Post # 4
I’m not paying for it, but I’m also not requiring them to do it. I was up front with my girls and told them that I will get them an appointment if they want one, but that they can totally do their own hair/makeup if they’d prefer that. They were all really understanding about that and surprisingly, they’ve all decided they want to go ahead and do it even though they are paying it themselves! (I have a big bridal party too, so I couldn’t afford to pay for it all either.)
Post # 5
Personally I don’t care how they do their hair! They’ve all got very varied lenghts. That’s a good idea – let them decide. I’d recommend up if they want it since we’ll be outdoors in the hot very humid weather (near water). I’ve got a couple non girly girls in the bunch so I want to somehow please everyone.
Post # 6
I’m not paying for my girls’ hair or make-up. I just told them any down hairstyle is fine with me and they just have to look decent on makeup. As long as you don’t become too specific and detail stricken about who does it, etc…you don’t have to foot the bill.
Post # 7
Here’s the way I see it. If you require your girls to have their hair and make up professionally done, you should pay for it. If you give them the option of doing it themselves, then I don’t think you’re required to pay.
Post # 8
My girls are paying for their own. I was just going to have them choose what they wanted to do–but they all wanted the opportunity to be pampered I guess! I don’t think they all will be getting their makeup done–I let them decide that as well. I trust that they’ll look great!
Post # 9
You are not required to pay for that, however if you are *requiring* something specific, it would be nice to pay for part of it. I’m not paying for my girls, but I’m also making it optional for them to have it professionally done. My thoughts are, they know what looks the best on them and if they know they can’t do it themselves they will pay to have it done (BUT I know my girls well enough to do this lol). If you have a BM that is oblivious to something that doesn’t look so great, that’s where you have a potential problem lol