Post # 1
Ok, so my wedding is This Saturday and I have a Bm that is getting ink done all the time now! I’m not much of a tattoo person and I don’t mind if anyone else is, but the issue is, they are horrible, and by that I mean her sister is doing them who is not a tattoo artist, she just decided to get a gun and started doing them. They are on her arms, her legs, and her back. One even says Bitch on her ankle in huge letters. I’m just getting frustrated and I don’t know what to do. My dresses are of course strapless and they are short. I dont know if I’m getting worked up about it or if I should just let her look like an idiot.
Post # 3
@cinimini15: Oh wow! her own tattoo gun? “Bitch” on her ankle? Most people on this board are very agaist telling your bms to cover tattoos, but I can understand why you would want to have her cover it up. How about buying shawls for all of the girls to wear during the ceremony and asking her to put that cover up make up on the “bitch” tattoo.
Post # 4
Just let her look like an idiot…..
At first I thought you didn’t like tattoos…but I do totally understand your issue….I hate scratchers and unsafe tattooing practices….I have tattoos…..all three done at the same studio….
My Maid/Matron of Honor has tats as well and wants anothr one on her arm but told me she is waiting until after my wedding…I asked her why, it’s her body and her tatts are all done properly and look great…..
but yeah, I would just let her look like an idiot…..does she realize this stuff doesn’t come off?
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think it’s appropriate to ask her to get some serious tattoo coverup and coverup the curse word. I think you just have to deal with the rest of them, even if they’re ugly. You’ve got to take your friends the way they are. Someone will come along on here and tell you the makeup to get; you want the one that the guy with the skeleton tattoos all over his body used.
Post # 6
Yikes! I’m so sorry that you are dealing with this! Normally, I don’t think it’s polite to ask your BMs or GMs to hide their tattoos. However, depending on your ceremony location, I think it might be OK to ask her to cover (with makeup/tattoo concealer) the tattoo(s) that contain very bold cursing. I know that neither my pastor nor my family members would appreciate the word BITCH walking down the church aisle. And that’s putting it very lightly.
For the other tattoos, I would contact your photographer before the date and privately tell him or her about this bridesmaid and the location of her tattoos that you are less than fond of. That way, he can try to arrange the pictures in a way that minimizes them. Telling him ahead of time will help avoid your Bridesmaid or Best Man overhearing the conversation, and will also allow him or her to brainstorm poses to hide her tattoos.
Post # 7
Is your ceremony in a church? If it is I would very kindly ask her to cover the tattoo that says “bitch”. Warning it may not go off as planned, I would personally be VERY hurt if someone asked me to cover my tattoo. (I have “Love is all you need” on the side of my foot.)
Post # 8
Agree with the PPs, let her look silly. It’s not a reflection on you, it’s a reflection on her. I love tattoos (I have a couple myself), but there should be some deference paid to how you have it done (by a responsible, safe and professional artist is the only way!!) and what you have done. In my humble opinion, “bitch” on the ankle might be a bit much, but who am I to judge?
Post # 9
Can you ask her to wear stockings? THat might be an easy fix.
Post # 10
I’m all for letting your freak flag fly as long as it doesn’t contain nudity or curse in an obvious way that is visible to children. If there are going to be children present or its in a church, I would probably go to MAC and invest some cover up. The other tattoos should be fine, regardless of whether you think they’re done well or not.
Post # 11
I feel for you! One of my BMs has tattoos and she recently just added more. Luckily they are all on her back and her hair will be down. Its her body, but I will admit to be relieved that there is very little time for her to get more tats, and incredibly happy that her husband doesn’t even like her getting them.
I do think that I would have asked her to cover a tattoo that could be considered offensive. I would try to be polite about it and have her understand it wasn’t meant to offend her.
Anyway, I think Kat Von D has some tattoo makeup cover stuff that looks great!
Post # 12
I’d probably see about covering that ankle one up. Otherwise, tell your photographer you want some very specific editing done afterward so you don’t have that tattoo showing up in any pictures!
Post # 13
I hate non-pros doing work. It’s unsafe and usually shoddy work. If it’s bad work, she’s going to look like an idiot, and that’s on her. As someone else suggested, you can ask the photographer to arrange them so her worst ones aren’t as obvious. I’ve torn people new ones for telling BMs to cover tattoos, so I won’t tell you to require she cover them. But if you are having the ceremony in a church and the officiant happens to see the Bitch tat during rehearsal, and (S)HE tells her to cover it, well… you have no control over that, now do you? 😉
@mrsSonthebeach: The skeleton guy was DermaBlend.
Post # 14
I dont have a proplem with tastefull tattoos and im not saying I have to love your tattoos cuz its your body, you can choose whatever you want but the word Bitch on her ankle just makes me so fustrated. Here are some pics. (i just deletd them)
Post # 15
@cinimini15: Oh. my. god. I have no words.
Post # 16
@beth183: i think these are good suggestions
@cinimini15: wow, these really look like they were done in marker