Post # 1
A little over a week ago my friend (she was also one of my bridesmaids) texted me that she and her dad were in the ER. Apparently something happened with her brakes and she ended up crashing into the side of a building. The mechanic said he was surprised they were able to walk away without any major injuries. They were both just really bruised up and extremely sore.
So naturally she was off work for a few days trying to recover from the bruising and stiffness, and when I was talking to her the other day she told me about how her BF (of 4 years) had not ONCE come to visit her to see how she was doing! Then when she finally confronted him about it, he tried to flip it on her saying “Well you never asked me to come over. And you know your family doesn’t like me, so it would’ve been awkward.” And he also said things along the lines of “stop blowing it out of proportion,” “you weren’t even that hurt,” “people get in accidents everyday and have actual injuries, yours was not that serious.” I’m so pissed that not only did he not take the initiative to check in on her, but that he’s now trying to downplay the accident and make her feel like she’s being dramatic. I personally think it’s grounds for a breakup, but what would you tell your friend in this situation?
Post # 3
@Galang_Gyal: Uhhh.. sounds like she needs a new bf.
Post # 4
Uh, to leave the idiot.
I know that people always say to stay out of people’s relationships, but if my best friend were in a situation like this you best believe I would say, “And you’re still dating him? Why?”
Post # 5
@Galang_Gyal: I dont think her family is going to like him any more after he didnt come visit… definitely didn’t help out his cause.
What a total jerk. 4 years, you say? I’d dump his ass.
Post # 6
@Galang_Gyal: Yeah. At the very least she should take a break from the jerk.
Post # 7
@Galang_Gyal: breakupsville for sure. Didnt check in on her in the hospital?? No wonder her family doesn’t like Him. He sounds selfish
Post # 8
I would be gone like the wind. She shouldn’t have had to say anything to him about going to visit her. He just should have done it. And he wonders why her family doesn’t like him..
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
You can’t really intervene. Every time I’ve ever spoke up about a bad boyfriend it always got me in trouble or led to the boyfriend hating me (because when they make up they tell their boyfriend what you said).
She has to get there on her own. I think it’s grounds for a serious evaluation of the relationship – you need someone that is going to be completely supportive of you.
Post # 10
@Ninteenthchance: @AmeliaBedelia: GOOD! I’m glad it’s not just me. Ultimately I have no idea if she’ll take my advice or not, but I hope she does. So insensitive and heartless…ugh
Post # 11
Years ago I was dating a guy and landed in hospital with a severe virus/illness. It went on for 3 months. I was in the ER 4 times or so.
One time it flared up and I had to get to the hospital. My BF at the time drove me
AND DITCHED ME THERE. How the f was I supposed to get home?
He didn’t even call me later to see how I was doing.
No. no no no no. Fuck that. I should have dumped him immediatley. Guys like this are douche bags.
Post # 12
@BlondeBee: Exactly! He just made himself look 100xs worse to the whole family PLUS all her friends
@missamysmiles: Yeah I normally don’t like to make any definitive statements to my friends about their relationships UNLESS there’s abuse going on. But this situation is just too crazy not to speak up about
Post # 13
WTF?! That is so messed up. Your friend may have had minor injuries, but she still needed emotional support from her loved ones. Maybe it’s true that she never asked him to come over – there’s always more than 1 side to a story. But you know what? That would not have stopped me from being there for my SO. I would not have hesitated for a second to be with my FI if the same thing happened to him. I would tell your friend that there is no excuse for an unsupportive SO and that she is not blowing things out of proportion. She’ll have to decide for herself, but it sounds like this would be a good time for her to move on.
Post # 14
Ugh…that’s pretty terrible. I got in a car accident when I was in high school, and my BF at the time didn’t check up on me at all. I wasn’t in the hosital, but STILL! We broke up a few days later.
Post # 15
@HappySky7: Wow that’s so messed up! I had something less severe but kinda similar. In college I came down with some weird virus that they thought was swine flu. So they made me leave campus. I didn’t have a car so my dad had to drive all the way up to my school and take me home for a week. The guy I was dating NEVER asked how I was doing, never called, never texted. I didn’t hear from him until I had been back on campus for a few days. That hurt my feelings sooo bad! But that situation makes me so thankful for DH. When we were dating he came all the way out of the way to give me a hug and bring me a sundae because he knew I had cramps. And I didn’t even ask him to! A good man will always check up on his lady.