Post # 1
I thought I had picked out my bridesmaid dresses. I wanted to have them all bought at DB for ease and because I knew the blue would match the tuxes. But then I remembered how one of my bridesmaids has been trying to get pregnant.
So here is my dilema:
Two of my bridesmaids are a size four. Verrrrry tiny. I’m worried that the bridesmaid that is TTC might end up getting pregnant (for about the last year she has been TTC but has had multiple miscarriges and health issues revolving around it). If the TTC bride gets pregnant I’m worried she’ll need a more flowy dress then I originally thought.
What I’m really worried about are the tiny tiny girls being overwhelmed in fabric and the pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man being uncomfortable in anything that would fit the tiny girls. I really know how important this whole pregnancy is to her and I would be really excited if she did end up conceiving so I want to be VERY respecful and mindful of that while respecting the tight budget of another Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Any suggestions? I don’t know how public all this info is to everyone so I don’t want to really bring it up either.
Post # 3
How important is it that everyone wears the same dress? Could you get a dress that can easily have a back panel put into it? So that if the bridesmaid does get pregnant it’s something that can be dealt with during the alterations stage?
Post # 4
I would say just pick the color, and let the BMs pick their own style. DB is famous for doing that. This way, if your one Bridesmaid or Best Man does end up getting preggers, she will still match the others, and will be in a dress she finds comfortable.
Post # 5
@SweetRose2011: Can you pick a fabric, color, and dress length and allow each of your bridesmaids to pick their own dresses?
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where we were allowed to do that and it was great. Most everyone chose strapless, but I got to wear a dress with straps and everyone was comfortable.
All the dresses were the same fabric, length and color so they all looked great.
Post # 6
Would you have a problem with them wearing different styles? Many brides pick out one color and/or designer and tell their BMs to pick out whatever style they find flattering.
As another suggestion, I had a variety of body types among my bridesmaids but I found a dress that I think looked fantastic on all of them. It’s a V-neck (looks similar to a halter top) with a flowy chiffon empire waist skirt going down to the knee. Plenty of room for curves, be they boobs or bellies, and still very flattering on the skinnier types.
Post # 7
I think there are plenty of dresses that would work for all of them! I wouldn’t worry about the smaller girls being overwhelmed by a dress… as long as it is their size it shouldn’t be a problem. Here’s a DB dress that I think would work well for all of them (plus it’s gorgeous!). Hope this helps!
Post # 8
I do not have a problem with the colors/fabric/length being chosen and them chosing the dress..if I could see the dress on them.
One of the very tiny bridesmaids went to try on dresses with me the first time and her choice of dresses is…..well….less then satisfactory. Let’s just say that since nothing nice comes to mind. lol
Post # 9
@SweetRose2011: You could also pick 5 or 6 different dresses that you “approve” of for them to pick from. My Bridesmaid or Best Man dress was from VW so there were only 5 or 6 in the line with the right fabric, length and color. So maybe you could “prescreen” them.
Post # 10
@KatNYC2011: good idea. I like that. and then hopefully they will all meet and decide which ones to wear together. My wedding isn’t for a while anyways and the probably won’t be ordering until next summer. I was just thinking about the last few days.
Post # 11
David’s Bridal has many dresses that would look good on tiny girls and larger girls.
For example: http://www.davidsbridal.com/Product_Soft-Crinkle-Chiffon-Halter-with-Draped-Cascade-F12688_Bridal-Party-Bridesmaids-Shop-By-Length-Long-Bridesmaid-Dresses
This dress would show a baby bump if it’s later on in the pregnancy. However, if it’s early on, this dress would be very flattering for almost any body type.
Post # 12
@SweetRose2011: I had this exact same dilemma and it worked out fine! My Maid/Matron of Honor was TTC when I got engaged and did end up getting pregnant a few months ago! I had her and my bridesmaid (sister) pick dresses in Truffle from David’s Bridal. Maid/Matron of Honor found a great dress that will easily accomodate her expanding belly. My sister also picked a dress she loved. Everyone ended up happy! I spent countless hours worrying about this issue, too, but don’t worry, it will work out!
Post # 13
I had my bridesmaid’s choose their own dresses from DB – I just asked that they all be long and in the same color. It worked out wonderfully! They all chose something different and three of the girls will have strapless dresses that actually all complement each other and my Maid/Matron of Honor just happened to pick a dress with full straps so she will stand out a bit. If you look at some of the DB catalogs they have now, they show BM’s in different dresses in the same color/length. This is likely a marketing tool but I still think it looks great. It also allows the girls to choose something they like, within their personal budget and that suits THEM and their figure. I should also mention that three of my ‘maids are tiny girls and my Maid/Matron of Honor is plus size so this method worked out every which way. They’re going to look fantastic!
Post # 14
If you go on David’s website, there’s a section called “maternity appropriate.” You could pick out on of those dresses (still a variety) for all the bridesmaids. From having a bridesmaid try them one, I would recommend the jersey material; it had the most give for when she is further along.