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So  I have a BM that I have known since my freshman year in college. She is actually my big sis from sorority. Let's call her Tracy. Here's the issue...

Tracy is a flight attendant; bcuz of her schedule she could not make it to the fittings, bm dress outings, or any other activities so far but that is totally cool I understand.

So, about 2-3 months ago she was in town so I wanted her to try on the bm dress. She said her car was not available so I took off from work early picked it up in LA and drove it to her. (btw-total lie her car was in the driveway but not the issue). At the time she said she would pay me the next time I saw her. We went to lunch and I mentioned that I was going to mail my MOH her dress who lives in NY . She then offered to take it with her on one of her flights; it would be no prob she said, she flies there all the time (and lives out there, too). I thanked her of course! I was relieved! So one month later I took her the dress and she transported it to my MOH and met up with her. They even went to dinner. (MOH is my high school friend) All good right??

Wrong! on Monday Tracy n I were texting, she wanted me to come out to a ball game later this month but I work. So I told her hey I think I wont be able to come out so maybe you can just mail me the $89. She then tells me she does not have checks and she will give me the money if I came to the game, but I can't. So I say ok just hold on to it. So a few hrs later I get a text from her saying- Hey you think I can get some money shaved off the dress for transporting the it to MOH n meeting up with her?

I was a bit confused so I said- I'm sorry I didn't know you had to spend money; let me know how much you spent and I'll reimburse you. She says- No I did not spend any money but it would have cost her a lot more if you would have had to ship it to her. I say- what? well how much do you want? She say- Halfers I say- OMG you want $45, but it cost you nothing and I thought you were doing a favor she says- I was doing YOU the favor so you wouldn't have to worry about it getting damaged or lost. I say- I'm going to talk to MOH So then I find out that she text my friend/MOH aslking her for the money. Keep in mind no mention that she was charging us a fee prior to this and the dress was transported about 1-1 1/2 months ago!

I'm really mad. I can honestly say it is not about money. She has never had financial issues and I can almost guarantee that she is not now. We text some more and I flat out asked her if she was having money burdens and she gave me some cheap run around answer and randonly included- oh and i broke up with my BF. I think she is fishing me to say I'll pay for the dress and honestly if she was in financial hardship (like I am doing for another girl) I would but in this case I feel like I'd be getting duped.

I was like huh????? What do I make of this? Everyone says she is crazy. I'm starting to think this is a call for attention but so close to the wedding??? come on!

I'm just as boggled by htis as everyone else! I looked up the cost it would have cost to ship and it would be netween 12-15 bucks! I don't understand why she wants to charge and why she didn't say anything before! So strange...

I feel like she is fishing for me to say that I'll pay for her dress just so she can get her way. I have no idea where this is coming from );

I'm even considering asking her to step down from the wedding id she continues to act htis way... );

@JamaicaBride: I totally agree. If you take that approach, she'll either keep trying to get around it, or she suck it up, pay you for the dress and drop the "fee".

What a nut!

@Tatum: The $45 is half of her dress cost. She text MOH this " Kiki is upset with me, but I'm hoping you can help me out. Can you pay me half of the cost of my dress for taking you your dress. It would have cost you more if you had it shipped to you. A lot of things are happeinging right now, I broke up with my BF. Can you help out?

So I am sad now bcuz I though she was a good friend but this is really not cool. Maybe she is envious that I'm getting marries and it is just coming out??? I don't know! My friends that know her think she's acting crazy and that it's not cool.

@JamaicaBride: That's how I feel, but at the same time I'm really sad about it. At first I was very mad but now I just feel that she is trying ot start drama when its been smooth sailing until now. I'm never asked her to do anything for the wedding, so it's not like I've ben asking too much of the girls. It's just soo strange

@Ms. Meowerson: She has had her "moments" in the past, but nothing this bad or mean. Sometimes she can be a brat but this is WOW

It will cost you $14.95 over USPS Priority Mail with a Tracking Number to get your MOH's dress from California to New York in 4-5 days. I would tell her that prior to her offer, you were looking to spend that much, then reimburse her for that amount.

Your BM's tackiness aside, even if she was playing courier, it would not cost you $45 to ship the dress. Settle the shipping cost and be done with it. And in the future, refrain from making any other arrangements with her that might cost her money. If you do so, I would follow up with an email to document it.

Update- Ok we spoke and she is being weird! She says that she has been through  a whirlwind of things the mast month and she has to get surgeries but did not want to bother me with it. I said you know you can always talk to me and I'm never too busy for any of my friends and I've always made myself available to her. She stayed verrry vague saying that I'll find out soon about it. And then she adds- My BF wants to get back with me

I was like huuuh? She stayed vague like if she was fishing for sympathy but I was not asking for any info that she was not offering b/cuz I'm not playing in to it. From the conversation I think she has to see a dermatologist and get something removed???? But I'm just asuming here b/cuz she said she is to embarrassed to talk about it. Ok????

And she has medical insurance so she is needing money to pay for something that is not covered I assume. And then she says I made her sad. Oh and she tells me she apologized to MOH, but MOH tells me that all she said was "I hope I didn't make you upset"

Arrrrghhhh! What's going on. More and more I think she is doing this for attention. But why 2 months b4 the wedding grrrrr

Everyone's guess is as good as mine! I can tell you she has always been really loud about everything. She never keeps anything to herself so for her not to tell me what the "surgeries" are all about is strange, but I'm not going ot beg her to tell me either! I have concluded it is an act to get attention though.. but time will tell!