- Take The Reins
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’m having a bit of a hiccup. I have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and my Maid/Matron of Honor. I have one Bridesmaid or Best Man (let’s call her Abby) who is resisting every single thing I put to her for shoes/jewellry. It’s almost like she is being difficult for the sake of being difficult. I’ve asked if it’s about money, she says no and is spending in her normal routine, so I haven’t seen anything to alert me that it IS in fact a money issue.
First, Abby doesn’t have her ears actively peirced; she has metal allergies, apparently just in her ears, even to golds. She wears other costume type jewellry (necklaces/rings/watch/bracelets) on special occasions with no issues. Ok cool, I certainly don’t expect her to get them repeirced, nor suffer through the wedding just so they can all have matching earrings. I suggested to the other 3, we choose a simple stud, or small dangly to be a subtle glam since Abby can’t wear them. All 3 agreed no question. I suggested they all wear matching necklace/bracelet instead make a cohesive statement since the dreesses are quite simple, soft and can handle a nice statement piece. The 3 agreed right away, Abby…immediately rejected every single sample pic I sent out and had nothing positive to say or suggestions to add.
Next came shoes. Originally I thought silver, but none of the girls were wild about buying silver sandals, and Abby straight out refused, so after more thought and seeing the dresses, I decided on black. First, almost everyone has a nice pair of black sexy shoes, if they don’t and they buy them, at least black will have more wearability than silver likely would. Second, it’s pretty easy to find a nice black strappy sandal any time of year. The Groomsmen are in black shoes, and they wont detract attention from the dresses/tuxes like silver would as the dresses are a dark plum. So I found some options one day while out shopping and texted them pics just to give the girls some ideas what I was thinking. I found my wedding shoe in black, so I figured hey, why not, it’d look so neat in pictures! Bridesmaid or Best Man 1 loved the shoe and pic and said yes imediately, Bridesmaid or Best Man 2 was cool with anything and she was excited to have an excuse to buy new shoes, Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t wild about the heel and Abby, well she didn’t reply at all. So last weekend we went and saw them in person and all the ladies tried them on. Bridesmaid or Best Man 1, 2 and Maid/Matron of Honor all LOVED it, and immediately were onboard with buying. Abby, had nothing but negative to say, and said they were too expensive ($120) she didn’t want to spend more than $50 on shoes she wouldn’t wear again and that she already had black high heels. So we kind of left it hanging, though talked about them throughout the day with Abby saying nothing. While killing time, Maid/Matron of Honor went online and found them on Amazon for $58!! The 3 gals were so happy, but Abby still wasn’t interested. So the next day (shower) she brought her own high heels to show me. They are a classic black satin with rhinestone buckle, certainly not ugly, but nothing like what the rest of us liked. Plus, they are pretty shabby, being satin they get pulls and “hairy” over time, and the heel…well it’s very near stilletto. Which, cool whatever, but we are getting married on grass in a park, and the photos are being done in an orchard and a vineyard. I suggested the heel stops, she thinks they are ugly and that she will be fine. Sigh.
So I am kind of att he point where I wonder, do I really care if they match? How stupid will it look if she has different shoes than all the rest? If she won’t wear the jewellry we pick out? And does it REALLY matter or am I being silly?