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My shower starts in 14 hours and one of my out of town BMs called to day she won't be coming. She is " too tired". She is about 7 weeks pregnant and claims she is just exhausted. So far she hasn't gotten sick or anything. I would understand if she was sick ( I had god awful morning sickness). It's a 2.5 hr drive and we already have a hotel room booked for the party. Nothing big, just dinner then out to clubs for dancing. I had previously told her she could go back to the hotel after dinner if she didn't feel up to dancing. Now she is not even coming to the shower which takes place earlier in the afternoon. The cost for all the other girls will go up for their share of the hotel, dinner etc. I dont think its fair to cancel with less than 24 hr notice. This girl is supposed to be my bff! I told her how hurt I was and she said she shouldn't be driving in the rain while tired. It will probably sprinkle on and off, its not like blizzard, geez! Am I a bridezilla for being pissed about this? I'm having doubts she will make it to the wedding! Ugh! I honestly think she's mad that none of our friends from her town are coming up, she kept asking all week if any are coming. I told her its a good opportunity to bond with the other BMs that she's never met. Guess she didn't see it that way. I feel so hurt and abandoned right now. I was literally in tears over this and I am not an emotional person!

I guess I didn't explain it that well last night. I was pretty upset and basically venting. My MOH, who's known BM forever and I both think she's using the pregnant thing as an excuse to just not come. She had been saying she felt great, so this is out of the blue. She has expressed concern a lot about not knowing anyone, having nothing to wear and it being a few days after her anniversary (I couldn't find a weekend that was perfect for everyone). She is very much a person where its all about her all the time. I'm guessing her DH, who's very anti social and can't be without her for a second convinced her to stay and celebrate their anniversary. I had even told her to just come to the shower, and she will know people at the shower. I'm upset cuz I feel like she's purposely blowing me off and if she weren't preggo, she would have come up with another excuse. She recently moved back into the state and I was very excited to spend time with her. So bees do you still think I'm out of line for being upset? I don't want to be a bridezilla, that's not me at all. My MOH is already not going to the bachlorette due to a wedding her DH is in. But she still will be at my shower and plans to drive 3 hr right to the rehearsal dinner. So I definitely appreciate her effort, I feel no effort on BMs part. These are the 2 girls I've known the longest so to have neither of them at my party now just sucks.

Update: I just wanted to let everyone know I had an amazing time at my party and my girls really went the extra mile to make me feel special! I am still sad preggo BM was unable to attend but mainly worried because the other girls aren't too happy with her. I guess she had been actively involved in planning the party and had volunteered to bring a bunch of things and committed to a certain dollar amount. She sent a one sentence email to another BM the night before saying she wasn't coming. The girls all had to scramble at the last second to buy things and chip in her share. I didn't learn about this till after the party and I feel bad. I will try to let this go though and focus on my upcoming wedding! It was mainly hard for me because this girl has let me down a lot before, so my feelings were coming from past disappointments. I appreciate all the advice you ladies gave even though I didn't agree with it at the time.