- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I have 4 bridesmaids (and a jr.). Originally, I wanted no bms, just my sister to be a cutesy little jr. bm and call it a day. and maybe my moh… but i wanted to keep it super small.
Let me mention that I am not a girly girl, I don’t talk on the phone all the time, I rarely have “girls” nights, and I’d rather go to a baseball game than the salon…. That being said.. here’s my beef.
Two bms I’ve known since high school (one being my MOH)… they’re awesome. They know me, they love me, they make me feel amazing and I’m so happy to have them in the wedding party. They’ve gone above and beyond to make the whole process amazing, even though the wedding is in my hometown (near them) and I am hundreds of miles away. They rock.
One girl I’ve known since I graduated from college and moved across the country away from all my family and friends (a couple years). She’s kind of let me down through the whole process. I realize traveling for the wedding back to my hometown is costly, and I did not expect her to make the trek for the shower, or bachelorette party, but while I was with her and away from planning and everything, she didn’t do one thing to acknowledge the fact that I’m getting married. Except complain about not being engaged herself until her bf proposed a few months ago…. and now we talk about her wedding all the time. Oh, and I haven’t gotten one gift, she never RSVPd for the shower (found that out after the fact) and with her wedding now in the upcoming months, I’m just sort of shocked that she isn’t realizing what she’s doing. And I’m not spiteful, I’m trying not to let it effect how I act as a BM in her wedding… but I have to say it’s hard not to be. Oh and she also told my hometown BMs that she was planning a big shower/bachelorette party and they offered to fly out and help, but she just never did it, apparently. bummer #1 🙁
The other BM let down is a family member of the groom. We were hesitant to have her in the wedding, because of a history of let-downs, but the groom’s family insisted and promised there wouldn’t be a problem. Well, she never RSVPd for the WEDDING, and though she was involved with the shower (which I am happily grateful for), she bailed with less than 24 hours notice for the bachelorette party, leaving me and then two other BMs to foot the pretty expensive bill for what we had planned (and she check off on the plans, it’s not like we picked something expensive and then told her about it). bummer #2 🙁
I’m trying to not let these things get to me, to realize the good things these girls bring to my life and just have a good time with the whole thing. But the truth is I’m really let-down. I’m just sorta like “WTF people?”
Can anyone relate??