Post # 1
So my best friend is in my wedding party. ABout 6 months ago her purse was stollen and with it her ID and SSN. She has waited till today to go get a new ID – my bachelorette party is this Saturday. She calls me and tells me they will mail it to her and wont have it till next week.
She feels terrible about it and so do I. I am not sure what to do. Do we take the chance that she will be carded or do I just leave her behind? I am really bummed about this. She is my best friend and I hate that she would not be able to go because of this.
I understand she was busy and everything. She just moved from another state about 3 weeks ago and she relies on her parents to drive her around because of no car and no DL. It’s just such a sucky situation
Post # 3
@Aelie: So she has been driving around without a license? She hasn’t gone out for six months? She hasn’t bought any alcohol, or even Sudafed? I don’t understand.
Post # 4
Going to go out here on a limb…
Does she have a Birth Certificate or Passport ?
In so much as usually people don’t store those in their purse.
Post # 5
@peachacid: she lived in St. Louis and didnt need to drive or own a car. I assume her boyfriend bought alcohol if they did. Not sure.
Post # 6
Does she have a passport?
In both states I’ve held a license, they’ve given me a temporary ID (with a picture) to have while I waited for my new ID.
And yeah – how was she surviving in the meantime? This doesn’t make a lot of sense.
Post # 7
@This Time Round: she has her birth certificate and that’s what she used to apply for new ID. But they wont give it to her in person but will mail it to her which we didn’t realize
Post # 8
That’s a bummer. Can’t she just go to the DMV and get a temporary one?
I went a few months without one when mine expired and I was too busy to bother with it.
ETA: lol I don’t know why people find it hard to believe shes surviving without it, not everyone drinks often and if so someone else can buy it.
I almost never use mine unless I’m going to the bar (which is rare now a days).
Post # 9
Yeah, a passport might work-my BF used his passport as ID when he was visiting and we wanted to get a drink.
That’s friggin weird that she went 6 months without though! Even if she doesn’t drive, I would think she would need ID for something.
Post # 10
@nber0815: she does have a passport but its expired I think. And not sure about the temporary ID. I will look into it
Post # 11
@Aelie: Do you also live in St. Louis? What kinds of places are you planning to go?
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Any DMV should give you a temporary ID in the meantime…
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I would think about where you’re going and how old she is, it might make a difference. Once I turned 25 here, I pretty much stopped getting carded at 90% of the places I go to. Especially just bars, restaurants serving alcohol seemed more inclined to card. But then again, I’m in WI where I’ve been told we’re pretty liberal when it comes to alcohol.
I would otherwise look into a temp ID, passport (if not expired)
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Aelie: How old is she and where do you plan to go? Places like sports bars and restaurants rarely card me. Clubs and downtown bars card everyone. Maybe attend an 18 and up club so she can still go but she just might not get served? I would suggest her being DD but she doesn’t drive and the license is still not going to get here in time. That was very irresponsible of her but I am sure she is just as disappointed as oyu are that she is going to miss out.
Post # 15
An expired passport would probably be fine, all they’re looking for is age/photo match. Not expiry date like airports care about.
Post # 16
In Tx when you go to the DMV they give you a paper copy with your photo on it as a temporary until your real license comes in. You can get into any bar here legally as all that’s required is some valid form of ID with a picture. Of course I’ve been known to get in places with a yearbook picture (photo id) and a birth cert (valid form of id) back in the day. 😉 Just depends on the place really.