(Closed) BM not going to the after party? [vent]

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Yikes, sounds like the bride needs a reality check.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m with you. A 20 hour day sounds like pure torture. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

9 hours does seem like an extremely long time.

I’m not sure why she thinks you need that long, unless she has ALOT of bms. [like, 12].

Is it possible you can join the after pary for just a few hours? Maybe until 8:00 pm or something? Then leave early?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She is being unreasonable.  I say just sneak out with everyone else at midnight.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

This bride needs to get back in touch with reality.  Not everyone wants to party until 4am.  Not everyone wants to party until midnight for that matter.  It sounds like you’re already gladly making sacrifices to be part of the bridal party and that’s cool, but expecting someone to party like a rockstar until 4am after being up before 7am and then sleeping 4hrs to then drive 5hrs and work 8 hrs….um, no.  If she doesn’t already know your timeline on the Sunday, make that clear and just say of course you’d love to be there til 4am but you just can’t.  The end.  If she can’t understand that, she’s being unreasonable.  Perhaps you could quietly sneak out at 1am and in her party-haze may not notice?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House

@Handful:  +1

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

There is NO WAY I’d be going to the after party either.

After the reception is done I couldn’t ever imagine wanting to go out I’d ready for bed. 

She is being totally unreasonable. What do the other members of the bridal party think?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Uh… A 20-hour day is ridiculous. I would be sobbing hysterically by the end of it.

 

I would also tend to think she should have hired a second (or third if necessary) makeup artist to make getting ready go more quickly… I have to have my girls there at noon for a 5pm ceremony (with pics beforehand) and already that seems rough to me. (And my wedding ends at 10:30!)

 

I’d withdraw from the bridal party if she won’t see reason on this…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Handful:  Yeah, I agree. Just sneak out at midnight and if she really wants to get worked up about it, then its her problem.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think SHE’S going to be in for a big surprise when she realizes she’s ready to crash after the reception! LOL. We were SO FREAKING TIRED by the time we left our reception (and it was only like 10pm!)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Honestly… unless the bride is coked up I predict she won’t make it to her own after-party. I doubt she realizes how exhausting attending your own wedding is. 🙂 

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

She being ridiclous. I tend to find when I’m a bridesmaid at a wedding that I need my sleep esp because by the time they walk down the asile we been there doing things for hours.

Tell this bride to kick rocks and get a good nights rest. It’s not mandatory to make guest or wedding parties stay partying out until four. Trust me I can party with the best of them.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@LittleMissMagic:  Dude. Your bride is crazy. I don’t know how old ya’ll are, but my 34 year old butt would be CRAWLING to the car at midnight after that long a day! 

She sounds a little ‘zilla, so maybe just nod along happily and then, day of, give her a big hug at midnight and run like hell!

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