- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
So my brother’s fiancee has asked me to be a bridesmaid for the upcoming wedding. Only me, and her sister, who will be the MOH. She doesn’t have many close girlfriends.
And this is fine, I’m thrilled she asked and happy to do all that is involved. However, I’m having some trouble. Her sister, the MOH, is only 19. She is very young, childish (I don’t mean this about all 19yr olds, just her!), sullen and self- absorbed. She loves to party, and is only happy when drunk. The bride, on the other hand, does not drink or party at all.
And so far I have been unable to get her involved in planning the shower or bachelorette. I know as the sister, and MOH, it is her primary responsibility to do the planning, and I don’t want to take it away from her. However, the wedding is two months away and absolutely nothing has been planned yet, and I’m afraid of the bride not getting a shower or bachelorette. When I try speaking with the sister, all I get is her saying she doesn’t know, doesn’t think the bride wants anything. I have spoken with the bride directly though, and I know she does want a party (albeit a non- trad one).
I’ve come up with some ideas and run them by the MOH and she likes them but I guess I just don’t know how much I can plan without stepping on her toes. So… I guess my question is, is it inappropriate for me to take over the planning if she has shown no interest? Have any other BMs taken over the planning from the MOH?
Clearly I’ve never done any of this before, and its hard when there’s just 2 of us. I don’t really know the sister, or any of the bride’s friends.