- 3 years ago
I don’t ask a lot of my BM’s. It’s just occasional e-mails but other than going to buy the dress and showing them an idea of the type of shoes to get I’ve let them do their own thing.
One of my BM’s mentioned several months ago that if I wanted she would address the envelopes for the invitations for me (she has great writing) and to just give her a sample of the type of font I wanted and she could copy it. I asked her how long she would need, she said 2 weeks, I told her I’d give her a month just to give her more time with it.
So she keeps delaying giving them back to me. The 9th she was supposed to return them, she asked if she could have until the 14th, I said ok. On the 14th she seemed frazzled, so I said to give them to me when I see her on the 17th for an event, she said ok. On the 17th she didn’t have them so I said how about during the week she drop them off she said OK. She didn’t have them, so I said I was seeing her on the 23rd and to please give them to me because we really need to send them out. On the 23rd she called to see what to bring for this event and I said “please don’t forget the envelopes!” she said sorry could she have until Monday (25). I said OK but I REALLY need them because we need to send them out.
I texted her Monday about what time she’d be by to drop them off. She said sorry she forgot she was heading to the city to look for a dress for a wedding she is going to this upcoming weekend. I said please get them to me by Wednesday, she saiid OK.
Yesterday (wed) I left her messages saying please come between this time. No response. Sent another saying well we have to go out to do something but please let me know if we can come get them after. No response.
Now it’s the next day and I’m super annoyed. I feel like she’s just been jerking me around for 3 weeks. I’ve told her multiple times over the past few weeks to give me what she has and I’ll do the rest. Or just give me back the markers I gave her and I can just do them all. Now I have to spend time going out and buying new markers and addressing them myself anyways. Since now she is apparently not even answering my messages.
I would like to say that I haven’t been snarky in my comments, just tell her that I don’t want her to be overwhelmed so if she needs me to do them I can do them and that’s not a problem. The whole time I’ve been quite nice about it.
No real advice needed, just needed to vent and see if anyone has had to deal with something similar.