BM question?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I wonder if she’s had some sort of issue, either timewise or financial, which has prevented he getti g the dress, and now she feels bad so is avoiding the question. Try talking to her face to face or phone her, it’s harder to dodge the question that way. Ask if there’s anything you cando to help her out with this. 

Post # 4
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That’s hard, when all you want is a yes or no response from someone!  Do you think she’s honestly that busy (and if so, maybe she’d like to just be a guest instead, to help ease the pressure) or she is purposefully not getting back to you (maybe she’s decided its too much and doesn’t want to say)?  Maybe you can next offer to order it for her, and if she doesn’t jump on that, it’s not that she’s just too busy, it’s that she changed her mind.

Post # 5
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497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

8 weeks away?! How long does it take to get dresses in? My girls dresses took about 3 months. If she has a newborn, perhaps she is waiting until her body gets a bit more back to normal before ordering. 

Post # 7
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7410 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@tiffanyscanlan:  Is it possible that she is upset with you about something? Have you asked her about her life and the baby or have you just been in contact about your wedding and her dress?

Could she possibly be suffering from post-natal depression? Could she be having body image issues?

Maybe arrange with her husband to take her out for a bit of pampering or something like that.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

@tiffanyscanlan:  Unfortunately it is usually the people that you don’t expect that can be hit hardest. The problem is that they probably feel even more pressure because it is not what is expected of them.

Could you maybe buy the dress and gift it to her? That way at least your mind will be at rest and you wont be bothering her? or talk to her husband and see if he can motivate her.

She is probably really sensitive about weight gain and scared to get measured for the dress. I don’t have kids but I imagine it would be tough to reconcile your old body to your new body post baby.

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