(Closed) BM roles

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
3601 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor at all.

Post # 5
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have a large bridal party.  I decided not to name a friend my Maid/Matron of Honor in order to keep the peace.  I chose a relative instead.  You have a trickier situation since all 3 are your friends.  Maybe you don’t need to name one?  If your friend was able to pull that off in her wedding you should be able to do the same.

Post # 6
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It seems like you are equally close to each of them in one way or another. Why not have them all share the duties evenly? If you do decide to choose a Maid/Matron of Honor, may I suggest that you choose the one that wouldn’t care either way. It is she that would be most deserving, in my opinion, because she is most understanding and sensitive to your needs, putting your needs of the day before her own.

I am hoping to have 3 girls total; one that represents a friendship from my childhood, one from my university years, and one from recent years. 3, nice round, simple number.

My Maid/Matron of Honor is the one from recent years (since 2004) a close friend who also happens to be my landlady! She has always cheered me on and my relationship on, helped me get back on my feet, and even dragged me to hunt for a wedding venue a year before I was even engaged! She is such a delightful and silly person. Although I’ve known other girlfriends for as long or longer, clearly she was the best choice for Maid/Matron of Honor — she is truly and genuinely happy for me and I am so blessed to know her. As for my bridesmaids, the college one is very enthusiastic. The other, from my childhood, was so ungrateful and displeased with the way I asked her (she’s soooo needy, long sordid story I posted about previously. Pull up a chair and read *that* gloriousness if ever you have the time.) We’re currently working on the friendship but I don’t intend to broach the Bridesmaid or Best Man topic with her again unless I see a significant change. So, looks like the 3rd slot is available and I will need to reevaluate. So much for the best laid plans…

Post # 7
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ms_nickie: I did the opposite.  I chose a friend as Maid/Matron of Honor and have my three sisters as bridesmaids as I could never choose between them

Post # 9
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I like the idea about having them share all the duties. You can divide things up evenly and then just call them all BMs or MOHs. That seems like the best way to not cause friction.

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