Post # 1
So… I have this bridesmaid, love her to pieces. And this is going to come of as super petty, but she tans A LOT. I mean, she is dark!! I’m getting married in a week and a half and am pretty nervous about her standing up with me and the other BM’s (5 total, with her in the middle) and being insanely darker than the rest of us. I want to add that its clearly obvious that this isn’t her natural skin color. Obviously if she were naturally dark, no big deal at all!! Question is, do I mention anything to her? Do I let it go? What would you Bees say or do? Its only a week away so theres no way she’ll lose all color by then, which I definitely wouldn’t expect, but I’m just afraid that pictures will turn out a little poor… :-/
Post # 3
Let it go. You knew this about her before selecting and asking her, so that’s just who she is! It’s no different from asking someone to cover a tattoo, scar, or birthmark, or to lose weight.
Post # 5
That’s being pretty picky
Post # 6
I can see where you’d be concerned, because that fake tan hue isn’t exactly flattering. But you did choose her to be in your bridal party, and you do care a lot about her. I think if you brought it up, it could potentially hurt your friendship. And besides, on the wedding day, I don’t think you’ll be thinking about her tan anyway. And if the photographer is a decent one, I’m sure he/she will find a way to balance out her presence in the photos if it’s truly noticeable.
Post # 7
I think I would be like, “Yo, stop tanning. I don’t care that you’re going to look darker than the rest of us in the wedding pics, but you’re slowly possibly killing yourself. Cut that out.”
Post # 8
I think let it go. She’s your friend and you love her and when you guys are old you can look back at these pictures and laugh! One of my BM offered to cover her tattoo but I said no because it’s part of who she is. I’d prefer to remember my friends as they are rather than erasing perceived flaws. Don’t worry about it. You can always have the photos printed in black and white… Or sepia!
Post # 9
Let it go, it’s her choice to tan to that extreme, it wouldn’t be right of you to want anyone to change anything about themself just for your wedding, that would be selfish.
Post # 10
She can’t untan with a week to go even if you had the gall to ask her so let it go.
Post # 11
Though I understand your concern, I think there is nothing you can do at this stage and since you knew that she loved to tan when you asked her you should have thought about it at that point. You might offend her too by telling her you dont want her to tan because of how you think it would look in your pics
Post # 12
Yeah orange Bridesmaid isn’t great for pics, but I agree with PP’s you can’t ask her to stop and honestly she couldn’t untan it up.
Post # 13
Post # 14
Give her some skin bleach.
Um. Just kidding.
Post # 15
This woman is your friend, not someone you hired for pictures. The most important thing is that she’s with you at the wedding, right?
Post # 16
It’s not petty to think it, but would be to say something. Let it go. Once she sees how silly she looks in the pictures she may decide to quit the fake and bake.