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No, anyone can plan the bach. party or shower - it's not something the MOH gets to do or has to do. I would really try and stay out of it as much as you can. Advise your sister that she should get a budget from all of your BMs or anyone else who wants to co-host and go from there. I obviously don't know all of the details, but it sounds like your sister was trying to plan really expensive activities and the BM simply couldn't afford it and was trying to offer other solutions.
Definitely try to stay out of it. Calm your MOH down first. I'm sure that the reason the bridesmaid is trying to help is because of budgetary issues. Make the MOH aware of that in particular, and hopefully she will be flexible enough to accommodate everyones' budgets.
I would be really careful about getting involved directly. I would advise your sister to have a chat with all the girls about their ideas and budgets. The most important thing is that you get to celebrate with all your girlfriends. Be aware that whilst your sister wants the nicest and the best because she is your sister everyone els ehas different prioirities and depending on how much they have already been asked to contribute for dresses etc your BMs might be starting to feel that being part of your wedidng party is too expensive. I am sure your sister will get it sorted so give her some advice and then stay out of it!
xxx
I understand completely! One of my BMs is the same way. She's a bit of a control freak. My MOH knows me better and her suggestions are more me than what BM wants to do (laid back shower vs. brunch with mimosas and china). MOH ended up sending out an email to the wedding party telling them how I am (laid back and casual) and that "stuffy" things make me uncomfortable. She also said that I'm getting really stressed out and if there was anything they could do to help with that, it'd be great (same BM is causing other drama). I don't think BM got the hint, but at least MOH put it out there.
“Technically”, sure, but definitely not always. I’ve never been a MOH but when I was BM for two of my closest friends, I pretty much had the role of MOH when it came to the shower. I planned and paid for pretty much everything since the others girls were either too young, too broke, too far away or just not interested. In your situation though, it seems like your sister has it under control and your BM is trying to take over. Is your MOH including your other BM’s in her decisions? If not then I can see why the BM would suggest some of her own ideas. While it is the MOH’s job to organize everything, she should still consult with the rest of the bridesmaids to make sure everyone is on the same page, especially if the other girls are going to be expected to pitch in financially.
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Has anyone else had one of your bridesmaids try to take over and upset your MOH? My sis is my MOH and she has been trying to plan my shower, lingerie shower, and bachlorette party, and she called me last night really upset that one of my other girls basically just axed ALL of her ideas and suggested her own (which were apparently really boring ideas that were "more affordable" for example everyone staying at her boyfriends apartment after the bachlorette party instead of getting a hotel suite)
Technically none of the other BMs know i know about this drama, so i don't REALLY have to get involved, but I don't know if I should say something to her! Technically its supposed to be the MOH that gets to plan, right?