BM to GM Ratio Way Off Balance!

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
3196 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

I don’t think each side needs to be the same number. And I definitely don’t think you need to stress about him making new friends just to round out the wedding party. 

It’ll be fine. 🙂

Post # 4
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SeeingDaisies:  You don’t need to worry about this at all. Your photographer wil have plenty of experience in posing groups for pics.


Post # 5
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SeeingDaisies:  It’ll be fine.  Don’t even think about it.  Have people in the wedding party because they matter, not to be props because spots need filling.

Post # 6
464 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@SeeingDaisies:  Our “attendants” will be my son as his BM, and my nephews who are 3 and 2. On my side will be my two daughters, my 9 year old as my MOH and the 7 year old as the flower girl. So we are over on the groom’s side by one male. However, I imagine the two boys will be with their mom and dad by the time the ceremony is over. I do not think it will look odd at all. It will just be what it is. I think it is completely fine to be off.

Post # 7
7157 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You pick people because of their relationship to you, not to make a pretty picture.  There is nothing that says numbers have to be equal and it’s common that they are not.  

Post # 8
9546 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I  don’t think this is a big deal at all. We have uneven numbers and both genders on my side. I wouldn’t worry about it!

Post # 9
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@SeeingDaisies:  This type of situation personally is not for me, because I like things to be equal (e.g. picture purposes) but it just so happened that we had 4 girls and 4 guys we wanted in our party. I think yours could work!  Your MOH and Best Man walk together. Your brother, walks out with one bridesmaid on each side, and then the ring bearer does the same with the flower girls.  Your bridal party might be off balanced, but you definitely are consistent with the look!


I know a wedding that had more males than females. It worked out very well!


Post # 10
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

FI and I were just having this convo.. I have 3 girls, maybe a 4th, and he has 6 guys.  He wants me to find random people off the street at this point to make it “even”, but I would prefer to keep it uneven and just have my best friends by my side. While we are saying our vowels, we will just have the MOH and BM next to us, while the other attendants will just stand in the first row pew at the church.  Maybe some of the pictures will look a bit off, but I only plan on hanging up the pictures of just the two of us, the ones with the bridal party will go into an album.. In the end, of all the weddings I have been to, the last thing I remember is how many were in the bridal party and if the sides were even. Do what makes you the happiest!!

Post # 11
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It doesn’t have to be even! We decided to roll with it and only have the people who mean to us be part of the WP. I think it turned out good :), even without the groom and best man matching, lol.

Post # 12
2498 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Donèt worry about it, it will look fine! I had 6 BMs and Hubby had 3 GMs:

Post # 13
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had 5 bridesmaids and hubby had 3 groomsmen, and it was fine! Choose people that you want to stand beside you because they are important to you, don’t worry about sides being even.

Post # 15
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have 2 bms and my fi isn’t having anyone – i like the idea of mismatched bridal parties.

Post # 16
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@SeeingDaisies:  I wouldn’t worry about it. Professional photographers can handle anything! We have more groomsmen then bridesmaids. Also, i’m sure a lot of your bridal party photos will have more of the older members doing some things and then there will also be special seperate photos with your kids as the junior bridesmaids/ring bearers and what not. 🙂

Ps. i like your username. 🙂


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