Post # 1
So I didn’t want a big wedding party by any means, and I don’t really have a big wedding party thanks to my FI not really wanting anybody to be his GM. His best man is his cousin and then the only other guy who will be standing as a GM is my brother after he gets done walking me down the aisle and a ring bearer. As for BM I have my MoH and two BMs and then two JBMs a flower girl. I’m so afraid of how this is going to look. I already know I’m going to have my JBMs stand in front of my BMs but that’s still bride heavy.
Did/does anyone else have this problem and how did you take care of it or how did it work out? I know I have 2yrs to plan all this but I like to take my time and I’m hoping in 2yrs maybe he can make another friend or choose someone else to be another GM.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I don’t think each side needs to be the same number. And I definitely don’t think you need to stress about him making new friends just to round out the wedding party.
It’ll be fine. 🙂
Post # 4
@SeeingDaisies: You don’t need to worry about this at all. Your photographer wil have plenty of experience in posing groups for pics.
Post # 5
@SeeingDaisies: It’ll be fine. Don’t even think about it. Have people in the wedding party because they matter, not to be props because spots need filling.
Post # 6
@SeeingDaisies: Our “attendants” will be my son as his BM, and my nephews who are 3 and 2. On my side will be my two daughters, my 9 year old as my MOH and the 7 year old as the flower girl. So we are over on the groom’s side by one male. However, I imagine the two boys will be with their mom and dad by the time the ceremony is over. I do not think it will look odd at all. It will just be what it is. I think it is completely fine to be off.
Post # 7
You pick people because of their relationship to you, not to make a pretty picture. There is nothing that says numbers have to be equal and it’s common that they are not.
Post # 8
I don’t think this is a big deal at all. We have uneven numbers and both genders on my side. I wouldn’t worry about it!
Post # 9
@SeeingDaisies: This type of situation personally is not for me, because I like things to be equal (e.g. picture purposes) but it just so happened that we had 4 girls and 4 guys we wanted in our party. I think yours could work! Your MOH and Best Man walk together. Your brother, walks out with one bridesmaid on each side, and then the ring bearer does the same with the flower girls. Your bridal party might be off balanced, but you definitely are consistent with the look!
I know a wedding that had more males than females. It worked out very well!
Post # 10
FI and I were just having this convo.. I have 3 girls, maybe a 4th, and he has 6 guys. He wants me to find random people off the street at this point to make it “even”, but I would prefer to keep it uneven and just have my best friends by my side. While we are saying our vowels, we will just have the MOH and BM next to us, while the other attendants will just stand in the first row pew at the church. Maybe some of the pictures will look a bit off, but I only plan on hanging up the pictures of just the two of us, the ones with the bridal party will go into an album.. In the end, of all the weddings I have been to, the last thing I remember is how many were in the bridal party and if the sides were even. Do what makes you the happiest!!
Post # 11
It doesn’t have to be even! We decided to roll with it and only have the people who mean to us be part of the WP. I think it turned out good :), even without the groom and best man matching, lol.
Post # 12
Donèt worry about it, it will look fine! I had 6 BMs and Hubby had 3 GMs:
Post # 13
I had 5 bridesmaids and hubby had 3 groomsmen, and it was fine! Choose people that you want to stand beside you because they are important to you, don’t worry about sides being even.
Post # 14
@mrs-to-be-2014: My brother is going to be walking me down so I’m thinking I’ll just have my BMs walk down by themselves. Besides, I was in a wedding recently and had to lock arms with a guy I didn’t even know and was 15 and I was 22 and that was a bit awkward, so I don’t think I’ll put my girls through that, even though all of my friends and family know each other very well.
@bkm0826: You make a valid point, and I don’t plan on him making random people (nor will I allow it, actually) to be in our wedding, but I was more or less just wondering what other people did. My FI needs friends, lol, he’s sort of shy, so him finding a new buddy and having him in the wedding would be a positive thing for him.
@O.My.Heart: I think your WP looks great and your pictures are very attractive!! I love the BM’s dresses and that color. It’s one that’s in an optional set of wedding colors I have picked out.
@NewfieBullet: Awwww your pictures are soooo cute!!!! Okay, I’m totally not even worried about the size of my bridal party anymore. It was more of what my family might think kind of thing because I have a lot of gossipy aunts who all want to run the show, but after seeing everyone’s pictures so far I’m not worried anymore.
Post # 15
I have 2 bms and my fi isn’t having anyone – i like the idea of mismatched bridal parties.
Post # 16
@SeeingDaisies: I wouldn’t worry about it. Professional photographers can handle anything! We have more groomsmen then bridesmaids. Also, i’m sure a lot of your bridal party photos will have more of the older members doing some things and then there will also be special seperate photos with your kids as the junior bridesmaids/ring bearers and what not. 🙂
Ps. i like your username. 🙂