Post # 1
I purchased the dresses & told each one to wear a specific colour heel.
In this instance, she’s actually a ‘groomswoman’ & wearing a long, black infinity dress. So i assumed black heels would be simple – a matter of pulling them out of the wardrobe.
She has emailed me saying that she doesn’t heels much & finds flats much more comfortable – would I mind if she were to wear dressy sandals instead.
Styles sent through:
Option 1 – it’s dressy, but i don’t ‘want’ the gold.
Option 2:not dressy enough
I wanted a nice, relaxed, but elegant feel to it all.
Part of me wants to tell her to just wear black heels & once the formalities are over (which are all sitting down for) she can put some flip flops on (which i’ve already purchased for her).
Would this be reasonable?
Or am i over thinking it & should be able to wear what she wants?
Post # 3
@Nic01: i would let her wear what she wants. no one is going to see her feet with a long dress. also everyone will be looking at you anyway, not her shoes.
Post # 4
@Nic01: Overthinking…its a tiny detail, one no one will notice
Post # 5
@Nic01: I would let her wear what she wants also – no one will see her feet. This is why I chose long dresses- one girl has serious back issues and cant wear heels & one has never worn a heel in her life. This way – they can wear whatever they want and I won’t worry!
Post # 6
She’s wearing a long dress, right? Who is going to see her feet?
Post # 7
@Nic01: Well…. the dress is long enough that if she’s wearing flats you probably won’t even see them. Plus, if she’s on the groom’s side, she doesn’t necessarily have to “match” the other girls. Personally, I would ask her if she’s willing to wear pumps or if she can find a fancier, all black flat. Perhaps send her some options. If she never wears heels she’s going to be fidgeting through the ceremony and could possibly look ridiculous walking down the aisle. No one wants that.
Post # 8
@Nic01: You’re overthinking it. No one’s going to see or notice her shoes. Just tell her you want all-black shoes and she can pick what she likes.
Post # 9
I understand you want your bridesmaids to have a specific look. But honest to god… no one is going to notice except you. Take a trip down memory lane and think back to the last wedding you attended: Tell me the footwear everyone was donning.
Yeah. It’ll be like that. Nobody will notice. Nobody will care. You’ll never look at their feet in photos.
Post # 10
@Nic01: I agree with what the PPs have said; everyone will be looking at you! Plus in a long dress, no one will really see her feet anyway. It’s nice that you’ve purchased flip flops for her! I think since she has to purchase ceremony shoes (unless I missed it and you’re covering those) they should be something she’s comfortable in and could ideally wear again. Would you want to spend $30-$80 (at least) on shoes you’ll literally never touch after the wedding? Nah.
Cut her some slack; she was respectful and asked if it was okay, she ran her choices by you. If anything, pick out some sandals together. I think you’ll look back on this afterwards and wonder why you worried about it 🙂
Post # 11
Ok, the bees have spoken. She can wear what she wants.
Now I’m tossing up between what @MexiPino: has suggested & send her some ‘fancy black’ options or just tell her to go with something all black.
Except i don’t really like the all black option she has selected. But as PP’s have said, no one (except me) will notice.
Post # 12
Black flats are fine. No one cares what the brdesmaids’ shoes look like.
Post # 13
Do we think that this one is nicer than the option above?
edit: the correct link
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@Nic01: this is one thing I would let go. With a long dress, no one will see the shoes. Doesn’t seem worth the stress of trying to force her to wear certain shoes if she’s not comfortable….
ETA: oops – just saw your update. I like the first pair you posted! I’m sure your bridesmaid will really appreciate it!