Post # 1
Ok, so my MOH and FH’s Best Man are dating, so they will get to walk in together…
One of my BM’s is married to one of FH’s GM…here is my problem:
FH’s GM is the shortest GM and FH wants to put him at the end of the GM line. My cousin is one of my BM’s and she’s the shortest BM and I wanted to put her at the end of the line. How do we pair them off?
I’d like to have the married BM/GM walk in together (and I’m sure they would appreciate that) but my cousin and the married GM are both like 4’8 and FH’s other GMs are at least 5’9-6′ tall and I know I sound crazy, but feel like it will look weird if his GM’s are lined up by height, and mine are not. (I’m very type A, a detail like this would stick out to me like a sore thumb!)
Plus, after reading the stories on the Bee, I’m worried that if we did put the married couple at the end of the bridal party line, they might get offended…does this really happen? I would think just being in the bridal party is an honor and somebody inevitably has to be at the end of the line. I didn’t think it indicated a lesser rank among best friends…if I didn’t love and care about them, I wouldn’t ask them to be in my wedding.
What do you think?
Post # 3
We are having the GM walk in first with FI, and then the BMs/MOH. After that, they are paired up by height. If that splits up a couple, they can deal for the 20 minute ceremony.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
IMO The GM strolling in with the groom seems weird if the BMs then walk in seperately with the music. I think after MOH/BestMan order really doesn’t matter, so you might as well put the married couple together.
Post # 5
Technically you order your BMs by the quality of your relationship/who you are closest to. The Groom does the same, and that is how they pair up.
I’ve never been to a wedding where they walked in together, only out. Most of the time the groosmen are already standing up with the groom and the BMs walk in alone.
Post # 6
@MrsWBS: That is the problem. I am close to all my BM’s and I don’t want any of them to feel like they are less important than the other because of where they are in line.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’d have the groomsmen come in with the groom and officiant, but at the end, I’d have them walk out with the BMs in order that they stand, regardless of relationship. I was just in a wedding with DH and he was best man. I was a bridesmaid. We did not walk out together. He walked out with the MoH. No big deal.
Post # 9
I’m curious about other responses to this.. I have a similar situation – my MOH and FI’s best man are married, and they happen to be exactly the same height (5’8″)… but, she is the TALLEST of my four bridesmaids, and he is the second shortest of FI’s four groomsmen! I’m also type A, and the height differences would drive me batty in photos…
For their wedding a few years ago, she had everyone lined up by height (but she had no one married and none of the BMs knew any of the GMs, so we were all walking with strangers!), and it looked SO cute in all her photos!!
FWIW, I was the shortest bridesmaid, and didn’t mind at all being last. It made me happy that it kept the height order! Haha.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
We had the guys at the front already and the BMs walked in alone (we had uneven sides and this was motivated by that, but I’ve never seen them walk down the aisle in pairs at any wedding I’ve been to). When we processed out we hadn’t told them to don anything specific and they ended up pairing off. I don’t know how they figured out who went with who or anything like that.
Post # 11
My BMs were “Ranked” in their order, so my MOH, then sister, then cousin then other best friend and it was 5’2″, 5’10” 5’6″ 5’1′. The GM were by relationship too and all huge compared to the BM other than my sis and it didn’t look bad. They also didn’t walk in together, the guys were at the front with DH. But obviously EVERYONE in your bridal party is close, just someone does have to be at the end.
Post # 12
I would probaby put the married couple together, but the height thing wouldn’t bother me. And it definately seems like it would bother you. So split the up for the walk. No big deal.
Post # 13
I’ve never understood why people worry about height. It’s a lineup of your friends, not a beauty pageant. At my wedding, and every wedding I’ve attended where I’ve known how they’ve done it, they’ve bee arranged by how close they are to the bride/groom. I say put both married couples together, and then arrange them by how close you are to them. If it’s hard to pick between friends, do it by how long you’ve known them.