Post # 1
They are tryign to organise a *suprise* shower for me. There are 2 of them. Bridesmaid or Best Man & Cousin.
Cousin is notoriously disorganised. Bridesmaid or Best Man is trying to take the reigns as she’s figured that.
Bridesmaid or Best Man has suggested a ‘pink’ theme & sent through some images of cakes & started chatting about invites with some ideas.
Cousin rather than chatting to Bridesmaid or Best Man has contacted me saying how pink theme is only appropriate for a 2yr old’s party & the cakes are outdated. I’ve suggested she go back to Bridesmaid or Best Man to discuss & possibly expand on the theme.
Meanwhile, Bridesmaid or Best Man is forwarding me an email that cousin sent her w image of suggest ‘cake’ (individual cup cakes) asking what I think of them. I know they both have my best interetss at heart but they are driving me nuts! I really don’t mind what i get!
I’ve suggested to cousin that she speak with Bridesmaid or Best Man, she came back with i guess that pink isn’t that bad (& maybe she’ll bring different colour decorations on the day). And Bridesmaid or Best Man is waiting a response on what i think of the cakes cousin has suggested.
JUST FIGURE IT OUT!!! Speak amongst the BOTH OF YOU. This is a SUPRISE remember!!
Post # 3
@Nic01: Oh no! Sounds messy! Can you get someone else involved to sort those two out? Like a Maid/Matron of Honor or a mutual friends sits them down and tells them to communicate to each other?
Post # 4
@alaha: I wish – Maid/Matron of Honor has left the country & none of them actually know eachother. Cousin said she’ll contact Bridesmaid or Best Man. In the meantime, Bridesmaid or Best Man has confessed that Cousin’s ideas of cakes are ugly.
I’m hoping that they will contact eachother, otherwise i’m going to have to find a polite way to ask to leave me out of it!
Post # 5
OK, this makes me feel less crazy for having put together a Bridal Shower Pinterest board, keeping it a secret board, and letting my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom have access to. I know my wedding is a ways off, but in looking for wedding inspiration I keep finding great Bridal Shower stuff, so I figured what the hey!
ANYWAY, I have had a HECK of a time planning bridal showers. I was the Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister and Maid/Matron of Honor for my bestfriend. Let me tell you. IT. IS. HARD. I had nothing but problems both times. I wanted my sister to have a Purple Bridal shower (LIKE SHE WANTED) Well another bridesmaid thought we should be having a red/valentines day shower since the date was close to 2/14. I told her that the Bride wanted purple. ALL she had to do was buy decorations for the table and balloons. Want to guess what color…..RED. Yeah, purple tablecloths, purple cake, red balloons and red rose petals. It looked HORRIBLE! (She is divorced now so perhaps I can have do-over some day..LOL) 2nd shower, the other two BM’s would not contribute in any financial way towards the shower, would not help set everything up, but the Bride’s mother insist that I say they were hosting the shower with me.
Honestly, knowing the color and cake shouldn’t ruin the suprise of the shower for you. But understand that these girls are not friends, and it seems like they are butting heads. At this point, if I were you I would step in and mediate a bit or you might not be soo happy with how your Bridal Shower turns out. Maybe just point them in the right direction when it comes to color and maybe send a few cake pictures that you like to both of them? That way there is no arguing, because these ideas will be coming from the Bride. End of story. If it were ME, I would involve my mom. She always knows what I would like….I would have her be the go between person….