Post # 1
Does anyone else feel like their BMs just dont care. They want nothing to do with the wedding, except tell you when they disagree with you. Which for me is most of the time, because I want our wedding to be unique and they follow all of the “rules” and judge when people dont. I feel like I chose them because it was what i was “supposed” to do, when now i think we’re growing apart and i should have stuck with one friend that hasnt grown apart from me. I know i should stick it out for 2 more months, but i hate the tension when we meet or talk about it. Its like no one is happy for me or cares that i am happy. I can’t talk to them about it because they are not open to my opinions. I just dont know what to do…
Post # 3
Aww, I’m really sorry, hun. That sucks. I would site down and talk with them individually and see what the deal is. If they truly don’t want to be in your wedding, give them an easy out. I would approach it as “Hey, I just wanted to touch base because I get the feeling you don’t want to be in our wedding, and I understand if that’s the case, but I wanted to check in with you to one, make sure you were okay, and two, express that if for some reason, you’re not feeling being a bridesmaid, that’s okay, just let me know, and there won’t be any hard feelings.”
I would give specific examples of why you feel hurt, and approach it as you being concerned about them as well (especially if this kind of behavior isn’t like them).
Mostly likely, because it’s so close to your wedding, they’ll want to be in it because I’m assuming they already bought the dress. But maybe they’ll get the hint that they’re being hurtful.
Good luck! Hugs!
Post # 4
Sorry to hear that things are tuff for you. Just let them know that this is an important time in your life and you would appreciate their support.
Hope things get better
Post # 5
I feel your pain………. and the one that doesn’t care is my FI step sister. She could care less about the wedding and shows not even a little bit of excitement for us. She lives about an hour away and lives in the country and we live in the city so we don’t see each other that often but I felt that she needed to be in the wedding because since my FI lost his younger brother last year we wanted to have our brothers and sisters in the wedding party.
When I first asked her she seemed so excited and couldn’t wait to help with anything that we needed. Well that has gone out the window. My FI parents are divorced and this is his dads daughter and my FI step mom is evil so a lot of it I think is the lacking support from her mom, my FI stepmom.
I paid for her bridesmaid dress and all I asked was for her to get her hair and makeup done with us. Not to be rude but she really needs help with her makeup (wears way to much and her eye lashes look like a spider b/c she puts on way too much mascara) and her hair is always in a sloppy ponytail (which is fine any other time but come on it is a wedding). To each is own but I wish she would want to spend the day of the wedding with my friends and family and enjoy the festivities.
And the dress issue, wow has that been a freakin’ headace. I ordered her dress after getting her measurements that she went and got taken. Yes when she told me what size she should get I thought to myself that doesn’t sound right but I didn’t question it because supposidly she went to a bridal store in her home town to get measured. Well when she got the dress guess what….it is two almost three sizes too big so now she has to alter it big time. Her dad (my FI dad) had the nerve to say that the stupid dress shop (I ordered it online) has screwed up but they didn’t. What they don’t realize is the bridesmaid dress is not custom made, the size you get is for the biggest part of your measurements and hers happen to be her waist.
Obviously I needed to vent and I am over it!
Wow I feel a little better.
Post # 6
I think it is sometimes hard for brides (and people in general) to realize that what’s important to you won’t necessarily be important to others, even those you thought were close to you. I’m sorry they’re not being supportive.