Post # 1
First off, I know bachelorette parties aren’t required and are something nice that is done to honor the bride.
I had a bridesmaid that was planning a destination bachelorette party for me and then booked another trip for the same time with her family. So she ended up not planning it and said she would plan one locally, which is fine, no big deal. At the bridal shower (which my fiance coordinated because he wanted to surprise me), she mentioned to keep March 19th open for the bachelorette party and that she was planning it. This week, she gets back from her trip and doesn’t mention anything to me or any of our friends. I asked her yesterday if we were still going out and she says, yes. I know for a fact that she hasn’t told anyone. I feel annoyed with the situation. I have 2 friends that I definitely want to get together with, but now I want to drop the “bachelorette party” name and just do whatever since nothing is planned. Should I tell her that?
I apologize for venting. Make sure you are careful with who you pick for your bridal party. This is one of many issues I have had (not ordering dresses in time, picking out new ones, etc).
Post # 3
I would for sure just cancel the “bachelorette party” part and go out wtih other friends. I would then ask soemone else in your wedding party if they could help out this Bridesmaid or Best Man since she seems overwelmed/stressed and can’t seem to plan it herself. It’s a bummer since your wedding in a couple weeks, it doesn’t really give you time to have a formal party with invites and all that. good luck!
Post # 4
I have had the same problem. Fiance family is planning a big shower for me and then one of my BMs said she wanted to have one for my friends and family. Now she doesn’t know. She didn’t order her dress when she should have so I had to get a rush order for her and it is supposed to be in 2 days before wedding. I took it upon myself to not worry about the bachelorette party she was planning. Talked to the other girls and we just decided on a girls night out at one of our favorite places. Lowered my stress level instantly! I, like you did not care one way or another but if something is going to be done I would like it done.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice.
If she was overwhelmed or stressed, I would even help her out. However, she is planning a St. Patty’s group for tonight (email was sent a few days ago) and hasn’t even sent an email/invite/text or anything for Saturday to the girls.
I understand you on the dress issue. They picked out a dress in October, didn’t order it until January, tried to rush it and still couldn’t get it in time. We ended up picking another dress at AA that had to be rushed. Only 1 dress has been altered. Wedding is in 2 weeks.