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I think I was fairly lucky...but after I picked out my BM dresses, I told everyone they had 2 weeks to order before it would be too late. I also waited until 4 months before the wedding to choose a dress, so that was partly my fault. All of my girls ordered their dresses within a week, except for one. The one who held out is actually doing her own alterations (she's a fabulous seamstress) so the timeline isn't much of a problem for her. She actually just ordered hers a week ago and my wedding is 8 weeks away. Yikes!! My BM dresses were ordered through David's Bridal, who said to allow 4-6 weeks for the dresses to come in...but they all came in within 2-3 weeks.
I would just tell them the dresses absolutely have to be ordered by next week or there's no other way to get them. And if they don't have the dress, it will be kind of hard for them to be in the party, right? Maybe they haven't thought of it in that serious of terms yet...
We are going as a group to get BM dresses this weekend. I am super excited! That being said, if we were not doing this I know that I would be in the same boat. Some of my friends are such procrastinators (me included) and I knew it would be best to handle it this way.
Yep. I'm getting married the day before you and my sis (MOH) is also the only one who has a dress. I just emailed my other two girls to (nicely) remind them that these things take a while to come in and find out when they're planning to order. One of my girls has been particularly unresponsive/annoying and right now my approach is this:
If she doesn't have a dress in time she'll have to step down.
Sadly, you can't make them order, but they have to understand that it's a requisite part of being a BM.
I sent out an email with the date that everyone would need to order their dresses by and everyone did. However, with your wedding being in August, I would say usually everyone would be fine if they ordered by mid April. It usually only takes about 2-3 months for a BM dress to come in (all of mine arrived in about 4-6 weeks) and it would leave plenty of time for alterations if needed. If you are getting dresses that are not from Davids Bridal, Alfredo Angelo, etc, I would say its about 10-12 weeks.
I emailed my BMs the details of how to order their dresses and asked they have their order in two weeks later. A few days before the orders were due, none of them had ordered. I sent a friendly reminder and most of them waited until the order date before turning in their orders.
The dresses my BMs ordered will take 10-12 weeks to come in and I wanted them all in a month before the wedding (time for alterations, etc).
I was told our dresses would take between 12-16 weeks to come in, and was advised to order them in April.
There was not a date we could all get together in April, so they are all ordering this Saturday.
I pretty much just told them they could pick one of two dates. One ordered last week, and the other 5 are ordering Saturday.
Haha...don't get me started! I'm getting married 1 month before you and I can't even get my MOH to *TRY ON* any dresses. She says she wants to lose at least 10 lbs. before she looks at herself in BM dresses, but she's been saying that for months. And my other 2 girls don't want to pick their dresses before they see what she's wearing.
It sounds like your maids are waiting until the very last second (they probably file their taxes on April 15 too, right?) which is stressful for you, but they will probably come through in the end. Are they in tight financial circumstances? Are the dresses you picked expensive? Those are potential reasons for procrastination. If so, try to have a frank conversation with them about it ASAP and help out if you can.
My SIL's MOH didn't order her dress in time and wound up wearing a peach chiffon and lace BM dress from a different wedding instead of the gold satin that everyone else was wearing. She did look silly in pics, but then again, it kind of made visual sense that the MOH was wearing a different dress. Try to have faith! One way or another this will all work out.
um, you told them to order by April 1. Its still March right now. chill out. If you wanted them to order it sooner, you should have told them.
I think it's perfectly acceptable to be worried- April 1 is only a few days away!
I actually ordered my dresses for my girls (partially because I was paying for them) but maybe, if they aren't ordered by April 1 you could just collect the info and payment from them and do it yourself?
almost all my bms waited until the last day or so before the deadline i gave them to send their forms in to the bridal salon we ordered the dresses from. and honestly, i wouldn't blame them-- if it was me, and i was looking at my to-do list, it'd take me until a few days before the deadline to get it done, too
I gave my girls a fake deadline I made up and all of them waited until that actual day or the day before to finally order. So deadlines definitely work, and keep sending them reminders - you have X days until the deadline! Here's the # if you forgot!
I ordered all my BM's dresses and they are just paying me back. Much easier that way, and you get to order them whenever YOU want to.
Get them going! I picked my dress out in the fall and found it on sale at David's Bridal end of December. Took 2 BMs till Mid February to order and a week later the dress was discontinued. 1 BM found out & my MOH didn't even bother to go do it even though I google mapped locations for her (out of state). So we had to get the dresses refunded and then go back to the drawing board.
The next day I went out and fell in love with a new dress (3 weeks and my MOH finally got measured). @klovesj - I feel the less you ask out of BM, the more problems you get! But then again, I'm a planner and had to try and find a dress that flattered 2 size 2's, a 16 & 24... which can be very difficult! GOOD LUCK!
give them an early deadline.
but i think you should have just ordered and paid for the dresses yourself. have them pick up the dress and pay you when they do.
I haven't picked my bridesmaids dresses yet and thus the bridesmaids haven't ordered them yet! I'm trying not to panic, but you know. Good luck.
well i understand your worry... i got engaged in sept. and by october we had a date, venue and dresses picked out... i told my girl dresses needed to be ordered by Jan 15. they all were so excited except my MOH. and on Jan 15 noone had put in their order except for the MOH ( funny huh) and i only had 3 girls. so Feb 15 i was still waiting on one more girl to put her order in (the bridal shop was trying to order all the dress at the same time to assure that they all came from the same lot of fabric) so i dropped her... and replaced her.Dresses were ordered in Feb and won't be shipped from the designer until May 30 so be careful times not a bride's friend
I'm getting married in July and ordered dresses in January. We looked at dresses, and I got the girls to give me their measurements and then I ordered them myself and they will pay me back when they come in. It's easier that way for us, plus we were able to take advantage of a discount for three or more dresses that was offered, and ensure they all came from the same dye lot.
I had that problem with my MOH. She did not order her dress with my other girls and finally the dress shop was calling me telling me she had to order it soon or they could not order any of the dresses because it was being discontinued. Well, I had to just keep calling her and reminding her and I flat out told her she will not be in the wedding if she doesn't order her dress. I gave her 3 months! She finally ordered it in December and thank goodness it fits her perfectly and doesn't need any alterations!
The 2 that went with me to look at dresses bought theirs right then and there (my maid and matron of honor). That was Nov. I gave a fake date of Jna 1, and the other 4 ignored it. Then I tried V-day, and 1 (bro's bf) went on the day and 1 the day after. The last 2 kept making up excuses of why hadn't gone yet and swore they would do it "that weekend". Finally I had to order (and PAY!!) for them TWO WEEKS ago (remember, they were first told about the dresses in NOVEMBER) and was told an estimated arrival date of 3 wks before the wedding. I've sent 2 emails and a text msg, and have not received any $$ from either girl yet. These are 2 girls I've known for over 15 yrs, but I still see myself getting screwed here. One's a teacher and the other's a doctor...so much for sense of responsibility!
My bridemaids haven't chosen their dresses yet either and I get married 2 months before you! I'm just panicking a little on your post!
i basically told everyone the order had to go in at the same time so that it would be the same fabric and therefore the color wouldnt alter. i am also low maintenance and so are my friends... so i told them basically, that i wanted them to order from a website so that the dress i liked was affordable for them but that if they wanted to have that price the gowns had to be ordered by such and such a date and that my sister, the moh, would be calling last to confirm and order hers. basically i threatened them with late fees for rush delivery & whoever was the person who caused it would have to basically answer to the other BM's, not me, since they are paying for their dresses. late fee's were not cheap, like 15 or 20$ additional...needless to say, they all ordered timely....dresses take 3 months to get in and the dresses are slated to come in april 22, wedding is june 12th.
@futuremrsgibbs we have the same date!! :) your girls have not ordered yet? what dresses do u like for them? at minimum it takes 3 months from most distributors, unless you go to davids bridal and get them rush ordered, i think it is 6-8 weeks. also, you could also just pick a dress from a local store and make them buy it there. one piece of advice, just pick the dress yourself - it causes for tension and a lot of disagreement when you let them all choose. i did that at first and the process went way beyond the expected time.....anyways good luck!!
@DanicaCherise Thanks for the advice. I was hoping that at least the MOH or one of my BM's helped pick it. My MOH is too busy with her three kids, but she really wants to chose hers. One of my BM's came with me to try on dresses and I still couldn't decide. But I guess what's best is for me to choose the dresses... from a local shop.
I am having the sam eproblem and we are date twins lol but no of my BM have ordered theres yet im going nutts and i dont know what do to they all live in the same town as me to and the bridal shop is in the same town to lol Its crazy!
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I'll start off by saying I am a low maintenance bride. I don't want to hassle my bridesmaids or come off as a bridezilla, because I'm really not!
But my wedding is less than five months away and only my sister has ordered her dress!
I have sent out several emails reminding the group to please order their dresses by April 1 so they will come in on time and can be altered, but still nothing.
Has anybody else encountered this? How did you make everyone order their dress?