Post # 1
I’ll start off by saying I am a low maintenance bride. I don’t want to hassle my bridesmaids or come off as a bridezilla, because I’m really not!
But my wedding is less than five months away and only my sister has ordered her dress!
I have sent out several emails reminding the group to please order their dresses by April 1 so they will come in on time and can be altered, but still nothing.
Has anybody else encountered this? How did you make everyone order their dress?
Post # 3
I think I was fairly lucky…but after I picked out my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, I told everyone they had 2 weeks to order before it would be too late. I also waited until 4 months before the wedding to choose a dress, so that was partly my fault. All of my girls ordered their dresses within a week, except for one. The one who held out is actually doing her own alterations (she’s a fabulous seamstress) so the timeline isn’t much of a problem for her. She actually just ordered hers a week ago and my wedding is 8 weeks away. Yikes!! My Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were ordered through David’s Bridal, who said to allow 4-6 weeks for the dresses to come in…but they all came in within 2-3 weeks.
I would just tell them the dresses absolutely have to be ordered by next week or there’s no other way to get them. And if they don’t have the dress, it will be kind of hard for them to be in the party, right? Maybe they haven’t thought of it in that serious of terms yet…
Post # 4
We are going as a group to get Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses this weekend. I am super excited! That being said, if we were not doing this I know that I would be in the same boat. Some of my friends are such procrastinators (me included) and I knew it would be best to handle it this way.
Post # 5
Yep. I’m getting married the day before you and my sis (MOH) is also the only one who has a dress. I just emailed my other two girls to (nicely) remind them that these things take a while to come in and find out when they’re planning to order. One of my girls has been particularly unresponsive/annoying and right now my approach is this:
If she doesn’t have a dress in time she’ll have to step down.
Sadly, you can’t make them order, but they have to understand that it’s a requisite part of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 6
I sent out an email with the date that everyone would need to order their dresses by and everyone did. However, with your wedding being in August, I would say usually everyone would be fine if they ordered by mid April. It usually only takes about 2-3 months for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress to come in (all of mine arrived in about 4-6 weeks) and it would leave plenty of time for alterations if needed. If you are getting dresses that are not from Davids Bridal, Alfredo Angelo, etc, I would say its about 10-12 weeks.
Post # 7
I emailed my BMs the details of how to order their dresses and asked they have their order in two weeks later. A few days before the orders were due, none of them had ordered. I sent a friendly reminder and most of them waited until the order date before turning in their orders.
The dresses my BMs ordered will take 10-12 weeks to come in and I wanted them all in a month before the wedding (time for alterations, etc).
Post # 8
I was told our dresses would take between 12-16 weeks to come in, and was advised to order them in April.
There was not a date we could all get together in April, so they are all ordering this Saturday.
I pretty much just told them they could pick one of two dates. One ordered last week, and the other 5 are ordering Saturday.
Post # 9
Haha…don’t get me started! I’m getting married 1 month before you and I can’t even get my Maid/Matron of Honor to *TRY ON* any dresses. She says she wants to lose at least 10 lbs. before she looks at herself in Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, but she’s been saying that for months. And my other 2 girls don’t want to pick their dresses before they see what she’s wearing.
It sounds like your maids are waiting until the very last second (they probably file their taxes on April 15 too, right?) which is stressful for you, but they will probably come through in the end. Are they in tight financial circumstances? Are the dresses you picked expensive? Those are potential reasons for procrastination. If so, try to have a frank conversation with them about it ASAP and help out if you can.
My SIL’s Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t order her dress in time and wound up wearing a peach chiffon and lace Bridesmaid or Best Man dress from a different wedding instead of the gold satin that everyone else was wearing. She did look silly in pics, but then again, it kind of made visual sense that the Maid/Matron of Honor was wearing a different dress. Try to have faith! One way or another this will all work out.
Post # 10
um, you told them to order by April 1. Its still March right now. chill out. If you wanted them to order it sooner, you should have told them.
Post # 11
I think it’s perfectly acceptable to be worried- April 1 is only a few days away!
I actually ordered my dresses for my girls (partially because I was paying for them) but maybe, if they aren’t ordered by April 1 you could just collect the info and payment from them and do it yourself?
Post # 12
almost all my bms waited until the last day or so before the deadline i gave them to send their forms in to the bridal salon we ordered the dresses from. and honestly, i wouldn’t blame them– if it was me, and i was looking at my to-do list, it’d take me until a few days before the deadline to get it done, too
Post # 13
I gave my girls a fake deadline I made up and all of them waited until that actual day or the day before to finally order. So deadlines definitely work, and keep sending them reminders – you have X days until the deadline! Here’s the # if you forgot!
Post # 14
I ordered all my BM’s dresses and they are just paying me back. Much easier that way, and you get to order them whenever YOU want to.
Post # 15
Get them going! I picked my dress out in the fall and found it on sale at David’s Bridal end of December. Took 2 BMs till Mid February to order and a week later the dress was discontinued. 1 BM found out & my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t even bother to go do it even though I google mapped locations for her (out of state). So we had to get the dresses refunded and then go back to the drawing board.
The next day I went out and fell in love with a new dress (3 weeks and my Maid/Matron of Honor finally got measured). @klovesj – I feel the less you ask out of Bridesmaid or Best Man, the more problems you get! But then again, I’m a planner and had to try and find a dress that flattered 2 size 2’s, a 16 & 24… which can be very difficult! GOOD LUCK!
Post # 16
give them an early deadline.
but i think you should have just ordered and paid for the dresses yourself. have them pick up the dress and pay you when they do.