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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    I have two BMs who kept promising to send me the check for their dresses...which I fronted the $120 each for.  I think they had every intention of doing it, but as they live far away and have a lot going on, they just forgot. Now the wedding is five weeks away. I don't have any amazing ideas for BM gifts.  I did promise them initially to pay for their hair. So what if I just say, don't worry about reimbursing me..I'll make the dress and hair your gift.  Will that be a nice way to go? Or will it seem like their gift is an after-thought since I originally intended for them to pay me back?

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Dresses and hair are a nice gift!

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    nah i think it will be much apprieciated!

     

     
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    Thanks! I hope so!

     
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    MadiLove918    May 2011   Palm Bay, FL

    @Ngolden1:  If I still owed money for a dress and in the end had it gifted to me, I'd be delighted!  How practical...essentially, you're freeing up $120 of their money for them.  Plus, hair on top of it all?  You're fab!

     
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    Joeswaffle    September 25, 2010   Southern Maine/Seacoast NH

    That sounds like a good idea!

     
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    lolaj       Queens, NY

    I think that would be great and very much appreciated on their part.

     
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    aruka11    February 26, 2011   Washington, DC

    I think they'll love it and probably appreciate it more than just about anything else you could get them!

     
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    Miss Chapstick    September 2009  

    That sounds like a great plan.

    Just be sure to give them a card with a heartfelt "thank you for being there for me" note at the rehearsal dinner or the day of the wedding :)

     
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    That would be a huge load off me if I were a bridesmaid. Great idea.

     
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    JessB331    October 1, 2011   Upstate/Central NY

    Great idea.  I would be very happy with that as a BM.

     
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    I would absolutely be thrilled if my dress was gifted as BM.

     
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    Ngolden1    August 22, 2010   Albany, NY

    @Miss Chapstick:  I will definatley give them a heart-felt card! I've heard a lot of people say that the gift shouldn't only pertain to the wedding, because then it's really a gift to yourself.  Whether this is true, it does make me want to add something else - since the dress and hair are required for the wedding. Maybe a framed picture of us also?

     
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    june42011    January 29, 2012   NORTH DAKOTA

    @Ngolden - I think the the heartfelt card and hair and dress are all you need honestly. I understand what your saying about a gift pertaining to the wedding, but not asking them to pay for a 120.00 dress is gift enough IMO.

     

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