Post # 1
Ok so one of my bridesmaids (also grooms sister) just recently got a new tattoo. The wedding is in 3 weeks and of course the dresses have all been purchased. She already had a small tattoo on the back of her shoulder. I was not concerned about that one. But I went on facebook and saw a pic she posted recently and she has a new tattoo on her collarbone/shoulder area. The tattoo is not large but definitely visible and the dresses are strapless. Now, demoting her as a bridesmaid is really not an option as this is the groom’s sister. My biggest problem is that she did not even have the courtesy to mention it to us. She would not have said anything and on the day of the wedding I would have FREAKED out! Should I suggest her buy make-up to cover it? I am certainly not paying for her to cover it up. It’s a May wedding and I cannot ask all of the girls to go purchase shaws/borelos just because one of them got a tattoo. Help!
Post # 3
Hmm…I wouldn’t really worry about it. I guess you could always ask the photographer to not get shots of her back or strategically photograph.
Post # 4
3 weeks from now her tatt may still be healing meaning peeling, dry, scabby … I dont think it would be a good idea for her to cover it up during the healing process (since it needs to be kept clean) but im not tattoo expert.
Post # 5
Personally, I’d leave a cute little comment on the picture like “Cute tattoo! Any ideas on how to cover it for the wedding pictures?
Post # 6
I agree with Miss Olive. This is not something that is in your control now so why worry about it? I also agree that if it bothers you that much, speak to your photographer in advance. I also don’t really see why she would have to clear something like that with you first. If she shaved her head would you feel the same? I guess if I decided to get a tattoo I would consider a lot of things but a wedding I was in would not be one of them. ::shrug::
Post # 7
3 weeks out she shouldn’t be scabbing, if she’s kept it properly lotioned up 🙂 However, a good foundation should cover it up enough for the standard pics, and if the makeup is irritating the skin after that then she can use make up remover and take it off for the reception.
My other thought is that most tatts are typically meaningful to the person who received them and therefore should mean something to you, would it really mess up your wedding photos to have a small tatt in them?
I would just talk with her about it 🙂 Good Luck!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Perhaps she shouldn’t have gotten the tattoo right before your wedding, but most people who aren’t brides-to-be don’t really think about that kind of stuff. It probably wasn’t that she didn’t have the courtesy, it’s most likely that she didn’t mention it because she didn’t think it would be a big deal.
My advice to you is the same that I’ve given to the many women on this board with the same problem: unless her tattoo is a swastika or an obscene naked lady, I’d recommend that you just let it go. Your photos won’t be ruined and the look of the wedding won’t be ruined. Actually, nobody but you will even really notice, I bet. Since she’s your FSIL, she’s going to be part of your family for the rest of your life. You don’t want to start off on the wrong foot with her.
Post # 9
It was crummy of her not to mention to you that she was getting a tattoo, but people can’t change what they want in their lives just because they are in someone’s wedding.
If you say something to her, you will risk having a big arguement really close to your wedding, which nobody wants.
I wouldn’t make a big deal of it. If it is still bothering you after the wedding, Photoshop the tattoo out of the pictures.
Post # 10
I don’t see why it matters that she has a tattoo…but if it bothers you in photos, you can always photoshop it out of photos
Post # 11
I don’t see why you would want her to cover it up? You already asked her knowing she had visible tattoos. I would have been very upset if I was your BM and was told to cover my tattoo up.
Post # 12
She doesn’t have to tell you or ask your permission to get a tattoo. Our girls have their own lives and desires outside of being BMs. If it’s really important to you for her to hide it, she can just cover it up with tattoo concealer. My BM has a full sleeve and I’m not making her cover it. I got over it. I don’t care anymore. Ultimately the wedding pictures I’m going to have framed in my home are of me and my husband, not us and everybody in the wedding party and our parents.
Post # 13
I don’t htink you should worry too much. Talk to your photographer about it and they can pose her so it is not as obvious. For prints you could ask them to edit it out, if it is that big of a deal.
Post # 14
Obviously, tattoos are part of who she is, which you knew already, and I don’t think it’s fair for you to ask her to change that or cover it up because she’s in your wedding. It might have been nice for her to mention it to you, but I think at this point the best think you can do is let this go because they’re nothing you can do and it won’t help to worry about it!
Post # 15
I wouldn’t worry about it. It is done, and it is part of her. I’d be pissed if someone told me I had to cover mine up for a wedding.
Post # 16
Ok I might be in the minority but I would ask her to cover it. That doesnt mean you dont suport it or love her any less and its not taking away her freedom/individuality, its just preference and it is your wedding.
I would just talk to her about it and see how she feels about possibly covering it. It’s not worth starting a fight or driving a wedge bt yall or anything but I dont see it as a bad thing to just discuss it.
If she doesnt want to cover or you decide to let it go, could you ask her to wear her hair down?