BMs not bringing SOs to the wedding (POLL!)

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: If your BMs opted not to bring their SOs you'd be
    Ecstatic - I have them all to myself : (14 votes)
    16 %
    Whatever - their choice but it'll probably make things easier : (56 votes)
    65 %
    Sad - I want everyone to come : (16 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I think it’s actually thoughtful of them in both regards – 1) They aren’t making their SO’s sit with people they don’t know at an event that they’re not particularly invested in and 2) they are going to be focused on you, supportive and not distracted. 

    What about talking to them about having their SO’s come after the formalities of the reception are over when they’ll actually be able to be with your BM’s and they could spend some time with you and your husband as well??

    Post # 4
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    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Personally, I’d be a bit worried if my BM brought a significant other – she’s only 8 years old!

    I agree with CaboBride2015, it is very thoughtful of them. I’ve left my FI at home on more than one occasion to save him from the unknown, haha. I’m sure you’ll get to meet their SO’s in due course, but it’s lovely of them to want to focus solely on you and your day – you must mean a lot to them! 🙂

    Post # 5
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    557 posts
    Busy bee

    I wish I had done that for my best friends wedding. My SO was miserable the whole time. 

    Post # 6
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    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t care. I was in a wedding in July in another state that my husband of course was invited to but we decided he would not come. I spent my entire 4 days there doing a shower, a bachelorette party, a rehearsal dinner, getting ready and going to the wedding, etc… He would have been hanging out doing random stuff with my mom and would have been completely miserable. I also would have hardly seen him if at all, until the day of the wedding. Sometimes it’s just easier to do those things without a date when you’re actually IN the wedding party especially if your SO doesn’t know people. It’s a huge job. 

    Post # 7
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    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think thats a nice thing for them to do for you. And honestly, it wsa probably mostly the guys’ decisions. they would probably much raather be lazy at home tahn surrounded by strangers!

    Only 1 of my bridesmaids had a SO, and he came with her parents. While we were taking pictures they got some really cute ones, so I’m glad he was there! I actually invited the parents of all my bridesmaids, as they’re all pretty much my other families.

    Post # 8
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    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    MsGinkgo:  Why would you be sad? I can see all of the upsides but there are no down sides…

    Post # 10
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    2455 posts
    Buzzing bee

    MsGinkgo:  Oh that’s good. 🙂 I thought you didn’t know them at all…I see now it was only 1 that you haven’t met

    Post # 11
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    235 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I once went to a wedding where my partner at the time was the best man. I knew no one else, and it was in a different state. We were there for 3 days and I barely saw him, and was just stuck with the bride doing helping things the whole time. It wasn’t terrible but I wouldn’t do it again…

    I think it’s a good decision by your bridesmaids – I know I’d hate worrying about how bored my SO would be when I could just be enjoying myself! 

    Post # 12
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    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    it would definitely make it easier!

    Post # 13
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    1670 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I didn’t bring my FI to a wedding in Chicago that I was a bridesmaid in.  We had the bachelorette one night, the rehearsal dinner the next, and the wedding the next day, I knew there would be a head table without dates, and I knew the other girls but he didn’t know anyone.

    I figured bringing him would sort of be a waste of money. He wouldn’t have been happy sitting by himself at a wedding where he knew no one! Also… flights. Anyhow, it was fun – two other girls also didn’t bring their dates, we had a fun time!

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