(Closed) BMs/Sisters really hurt my feelings, or am I complaining…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You need to ask them why they didn’t want you to go with them. Maybe it was a single girls only trip? I think you cannot get too upset until you know the reasoning behind it.

Post # 5
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think wait to calmly chat about it and then figure out how you feel.

Im sorry you feel left out, I bet it stings.  But try try try to wait and see what they have to say.

Post # 7
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11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s odd – they’re your sisters so just ask what the deal was why you didn’t get an invite!  I’m the middle of 3 girls and 3 girls is tough! It’s always 2 against 1 – in differing pairs though!  Love my sisters tons and wouldn’t trade them for the world, but it can’t definitely be hard sometimes.  

Post # 8
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1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe they just thought you were too busy and financially wrapped up in wedding planning, maybe they thought you didn’t want to leave your SO behind for an entire month. There are tons of reasons they could have. Give them a chance, they sent a nice post card, just nicely maybe say “I would have liked to have gone, maybe next time y’all can invite me too?”

Post # 9
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8314 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@pinkgreenandyellow:  Agreed.

I know it hurts but as adults they can decide who they do and don’t want to go on holidays with.

Also you are getiing married not joining a convent so why can’t you all take a trip together another time?

Post # 11
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2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would definitely be hurt.   🙁

Post # 12
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748 posts
Busy bee

Well you shouldn’t get too worked up about it until you talk to them, you never know maybe there could be a very logical reason behind there actions. 🙂

Post # 13
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233 posts
Helper bee

They probably just assumed that you would be too busy (or maybe even financially strapped) to go with them. While it does sting to get left out, I don’t think that they meant to hurt your feelings. Wish them well on their trip – I am sure that they are jealous that you’re getting married. 🙂

Post # 14
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

YOu have a right to be hurt. Express your feelings in a respectful manner. My brothers planned a trip without me and I was a little pissed off that I was the only one left out, however I just let it go because clearly if they wanted me to come they would have invited me.

Post # 15
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Ashley_B:  I am one of 3 girls also, the eldest.  They should have asked, maybe they thought your finances and time would be tied up but it would hurt not to be asked.  Dont let it esculate into a big fight though, unfortunately things can tend to get worse sometimes before they get better.

Post # 16
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2578 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would be pissed off.

They may have thought you were tied up financially, but THEY STILL COULD HAVE ASKED!

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