- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
EDITING up top this time for future people who find this post. I don’t know if the right thing to do is change the original message because that’s what people have been replying to, but I want to clarify that I phased most of it all wrong, and the real issue here is probably not the dress but in my head. It’s why I posted in here and not the dresses board. As someone a few years out of an active eating disorder, I still have some issues seeing myself accurately, and so I want to warn people who might have similar things about that being in play here, in case it might tweak their own stuff, too.
In the interest of keeping this post focued on my real issue – which are emotional and not physical, although I fool myself into thinking the opposite – I’ve removed the attached photos.
I make my mom a little crazy with this and can’t talk to my FI since he won’t see the dress until the wedding, so I hope people won’t mind me getting it out, here.
I’ve always had some pretty bad body image issues, and they’re manifesting pretty hardcore right now over my wedding dress, which I bought about a month ago. It was my favorite from photos, the first one I tried on, I loved it in the store but had a few reservations about my hips (my least favorite body part) in it. It felt like my dress though, and I was thrilled.
Then I saw the photos. I feel like the waistband gives me this huge muffin top just below it, and my hips look like big flabby messes ruining the line of the dress. To a lesser extent I’m also worried about my arms, but the hip area is the big one. I feel a little sick thinking about it, and although I’m going to try to lose weight before the wedding, I’ve become so afraid I made a horrible choice and will look terrible in my wedding photos.
I attached some photos of me in the dress below. Does anyone have any advice on feeling more confident about disliked areas, or maybe some experience with undergarments that might smooth things out a little bit? The wedding is over a year away but I can’t stop looking at these pictures and getting anxious. Did I make a big mistake with this kind of dress?
EDITING: I am adding here after a response made me realize that even in the writing of my post I let some of my issues take over, and the question I SHOULD have been asking is “does anyone with body image/dysmorphia issues have experience with dealing with handling such an emotionally charged piece of clothing?”