Post # 1
I know this is probably a really silly post but it seems that every time I look in the mirror I see a reasonably figured woman (= hardly supermodel but still looking pretty good with curves in the right places). Whenever I see a photo of myself all I can see is a stranded whale! Does anyone else have such a disrepancy in body image? Not sure how i’m supposed to feel good about the wedding pictures 🙁 Gym and diet will probably go a long way (especially with such a long time til the wedding) but I just feel sad whenever I see a photo of myself!
Post # 3
well i just looked at pics in your other post and i can say with complete certainty that i see no stranded whale there!
I know for myself, i’ve put on about 20-25lbs since meeting my fiance and often i still think of myself as my old weight, and then i see a picture and i’m like…oh yeah. I think positive self talk goes a long way! If you like the look of yourself in the mirror then look more often! You’re beautiful, and you’ll look BEAUTIFUL on your wedding day!
Post # 4
Don’t even worry…photos are awful on curvy girls. I have a really fit friend with a perfect hourglass figure (and I mean so perfect that I’m jealous) that never comes through in photos! The best we can tell is that the camera doesn’t always catch the way clothes drape, etc, and she winds up looking blocky. Plus, there are camera angles that make anyone look thicker. The mirror is probably more accurate than the camera.
Post # 5
And yeah…I’m with ScarletBegonia. Your figure looks GREAT in the dress pics. No whale there.
Post # 6
Oh I have this same problem I look in the mirror and I’m like well this isnt ideal but I can work with it and somedays I even feel really great about myself then I see pictures and I go into a depression bc I start to feel so bad about myself. I have also put on some weight since meeting the SO and that does not help!!
Post # 7
Yeah, the happy relationship weight… When I was my ideal weight i’d just gotten out of hospital due and was spent a couple of months struggling with depression. Bring in FH, bring in the pounds! Oh well, at least he put on a fair bit of weight as well 😉
Post # 8
This happens to me. I think I look fine in mirrors, but then I’ll see a picture of myself and think “oh my god, what happened?” I’ve put on like 25-30lbs since meeting my fiance and seriously hate seeing pictures of myself. Totally nervous about seeing our engagement pictures when they get done in October. I still feel confident and I still bought a form-fitting wedding dress, but I’m amazed at the difference between what I think I look like and what I really do look like. I started running to improve my health, lower my stress and hopefully lose a few lbs.
What boggles my mind even more is the fact that my feet/legs/heart can propel me to run 11 minute miles with this much extra weight. Maybe I’m one of those fit-fat people. 🙁
Post # 9
Also, I call the weight I gain from relationships “Love Chub”. This way it almost makes it sound… cute. :/
Post # 10
i’m definitely in a very similar boat. i’ve lost about 80 pounds over the last seven months and i just cannot conceive of how i gained that much weight to begin with. sometimes i look in the mirror and i’m like “hell, yah” because i’ve lost so much weight. then i’ll go to some event and there will be a bunch of pictures and i’m like “my god, i look terrible, i’m the fattest girl in the room.” on the other hand, there are times where i look in the mirror and i can’t believe my reflection, like i’m so delusional i can’t see any weight loss at all, and only comparing recent pictures to pictures from before do i realize the change. i’m body dismorphic tho:-(
Post # 11
@smitten_and_giddy: this. almost exactly my personal experience as well. 80 lbs real fast. In the mirror I feel way better than in looking at pictures. I’m just completely not photogenic.
I’ve heard practicing how you hold your head, shoulders, and arms, and the way you stand can make a difference in the way you look in pictures, if not the way you feel about them. I’ve seen info sites about it online.
Post # 12
I had noticed the same thing! … But then my pictures are ALWAYS different. My Husband get’s a kick out of it and thinks it’s neat. Wha? I want actual representation here. lol.
Don’t worry …many of us have issues one way or the other. Thing that’s important is to but blinders on and enjoy being healthy! Your SO loves you right? ..just the way you are? Isn’t that all that matters when it comes to looks? Stay healthy and think positive!
Post # 13
I have posted about this before; I suffered from eating disorders for a really long time, so I totally feel you on being unable to conceptualize how you really look. Don’t judge yourself based on pictures; I did that for years and absolutely hated myself.
Post # 14
I suffer body image isssues. I’ve been on a roller coaster of weight loss/gain since I turned 16 or so. I’m so frustrated and depressed about it. I’ve definitely gained weight since being with FI. I was told that I was too “comfortable” after settling down. I didn’t see it like that. I honestly think it was the way his family cooked that made me spiral downward. I was forced to eat what they had – more red meats, more carbs, butter, etc. I’m not putting 100% blame on them – trust me. I’m saying that different lifestyles/eating habits didn’t help me.
I’m completely unhappy with the way I look. I’ll glance back at pictures of what I looked like around the time I met FI. I remember comments people used to make about how good I looked when I first started dating him. People used to pick on him saying “how’d you end up with her? She’s too good for you”. It made me feel good, but of course I never felt like that.
I’m working on losing the weight, but I’m struggling. Discouraged and frustrtaed mostly. Angry that I allowed myself to get to this point.
I’m sorry you feel the same way. It’s hard to overcome, but it can be turned into determination. You are beautiful inside and out though. Stay strong and good luck in your weight loss goal.
Post # 15
I feel the same way but it’s almost worse.
When I look in the mirror while naked I feel like I look ok. Once I put clothes on, I feel less good about my weight. Then in photos I feel like a great white whale.
So I am 100% there with you.
I am really worried about the wedding photos. Most to the engagement photos came out well and I didn’t feel terrible while looking at them. So I guess I got a good photographer.
Post # 16
This is going to sound really silly but…I’ve actually looked online about the most flattering poses, angles, etc. It has totally helped the way I look in pictures!