(Closed) Body Image

posted 6 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m from a Russian family, and we’re pretty similar. Much of the conversation at dinner/parties is about weight: who has losed and who has gained. Russian women are really petite and skinny (and annoying). I’ve removed myself from having Russian friends and being around that environment as much as I can.

But I have American friends, two of my BM’s for that matter, who are both a zero! It is tough sometimes, but I try to keep healthy and not compare myself to others. It can be REALLY hard. But I really have no right to complain if I don’t work out or watch what I eat when they are pretty delibrate about their choices.

I’m with you girl. It’s tough when thinness is valued in some cultures as part of one’s beauty. As long as you are in a healthy BMI, I think you are ok. If you feel too uncomfortable, maybe start slow and work out when you can at home.

Post # 5
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Wannabee

If you are happy with you, that’s all that matters.  Your fiance clearly loves you as you are so I wouldn’t worry about it.  My weight as an Asian female of the same height (5ft even) has always been a topic of debate among my parents as I’ve fluctuated between 86-118 lbs.  My weight never bothered me and while the criticism may be hard to take, that is part of our culture and they will always talk about our weight, whether we are too small or too big.  A few weeks ago, I visited my family and they all had something to say about my weight (106) until I told them I was 4 months pregnant.  Then suddenly I needed to eat more!  Asian people…. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’ve never really been a super skinny girl in the eyes of my family.  at my thinnest, i wore size 25 jeans (i think that’s a 0 when you convert it).  outside of the asian community (my family), i’ve always been considered skinny (even at my heaviest).  i too gained quite a bit of weight (about where you’re currently at) and was uncomfortable with it.  i have lost a good amount of weight in the last few months and now down to a 27 (or 4).  i know that my family will say, “good job but you still have some more to go” while all my coworkers have told me that i’m getting too skinny.  my doctor felt that i reached my goal weight a while ago but i’m continuing to diet because the standard for a short asian girl is a size 00. 

my sister is a few inches taller than me and she is about a size 4.  when she was studying abroad in thailand, she traveled into china to visit the family.  she said that many of our aunts said, “oh wow, people from the big country are big like this?”  it gets even worse when you try to buy clothes in china.  i probably wear size xxl.  when i got my asian dress made, there were several premade standard sizes.  i had to special order it to fit my bust!

right now i feel good about myself.  i know that when i was this size seven years ago, i was not happy with my weight.  i always felt fat. i think all that matters is how you feel.  your perception of yourself is what matters most.

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