Booked a showing to look at our first home ever!

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

My advice (and I really don’t want to be a downer here),  but my advice is to not get your hopes up. Think about buying a house as a very expensive business deal. The more emotionally detached you are as you go through the house hunting and buying process, the better off you will be. Lots of places look nice in photos, but many will not live up to that standard in person. And House Hunters is a lie. It’s not nearly as easy as that darn show makes it appear. haha

Post # 4
3089 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@alt_bride:  DH and I are starting the home buying process now (Looking to purchase by August).  It’s exciting, scary, stressful, and overwhelming all at the same time!  Good luck!  Let us know how it goes =)

@lovekiss:  That’s great advice.  I’ve never thought about it like a business deal, but that’s a great point!  I get really excited really easily.  I’ll need to learn how to keep my emotions out of any offers we make =)

Post # 6
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@alt_bride:  It is an exciting time! I tried to go into it with the mindset of ‘it doesn’t need to be perfect – it needs to be a canvas’ and unfortunaltey, one of the first homes we saw was perfect and we fell in love. I tried not to fall in love but… I did! I still looked at about 10 other houses before putting in an offer to make sure I wasn’t just being emotionally driven. Our market is not overly competitive, though, so I could take my time. Enjoy the process!

Post # 8
2926 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@alt_bride:  My best advice is that everything can be repainted, carpet can be removed, currents can be added, but the house will always be the same size and relatively the same lay out.

The other thing I have to say is that if you aren’t married (assuming since you said SO) that you only have one person on the mortgage.  I also don’t want to be a downer, but there is no recourse for a non-married person in a home ownership situation if the other person just walks away.

Post # 9
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That is SO exciting!

I think it’s important to enjoy it, but never, ever fall in love with a house, just in case the inspection comes back with structural damage or something awful! (I once fell completely in love with a house, only to find out is was covered in mold!)

Post # 10
3089 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@alt_bride:  Thanks!  I’ll be sure to do so. We’re meeting with a mortgage lender on Wednesday to get prequalified.  Saving up the downpayment is definitely the most obnoxious part!

Post # 11
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@alt_bride:  Those shows are my guilty pleasure. Drives Mr. LK batty. hehehhe

The first few times we went to see houses I was all gung ho and giddy. By the 5th or 6th trip out, I was down. By the 8th or 9th, I was getting deseprate. And after that I just started expeting the worst. Can’t be disappointed if you have no positive expectations to begin with. As sad and pathetic as that sounds, it actually made the process easier for me once I got to that cool and detached way of thinking. Then I got very business-like with houses and I would know within minutes if there was any potential in a place.

Also, if you haven’t already, scope out houses you are considering on google maps. That helped us eliminate several that looked promising. Is that a junk yard across the street? No thanks. Oh look, there’s a huge set of overhead powerlines next door. Pass. Hmmmm, this house abuts a major highway. Yeah, no.

Post # 12
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@alt_bride:  That’s exciting!! I would take the advice that others have given about not getting emotionally attacted to any house.  We looked for 3 years and put offers in on 3 houses only to have them fall through.  When we looked at the house we ended up buying I was so over it that I didn’t really care if we got it.  Now that we are in there and have remodeled it I can’t picture living anywhere else, this is my home!!!

Know what is important to you in a house and what you need to have and don’t compromise. The main things that were important to us were land, a good structure, and ,(since we live in a frozen tundra), heat efficient!

Post # 13
1425 posts
Bumble bee

Congrats! 🙂 Don’t be too selective; most likely, you won’t find a home that’s the perfect fit. Choose a house that meets most of your requirements and make necessary changes or upgrades at a later date.

Post # 14
5864 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@alt_bride:  Like the others have said:

  1. Don’t get emotionally attached. The first house we bid on also had another offer and they won. We were devestated! But a few (long) weeks later, we found a house that is a much better fit for us.
  2. As you are looking at things, pay attention to what is really important to you vs what you’d really like. Also pay attention to what you SO is saying. It’s funny, I thought I knew what would be important to DH (and he of me), but going through the houses, we found out that what was top 3 for each was slightly different
  3. Look at the bones. We almost lost our house because it was such a wreck. It was being used as a boarding house (with waaaaaaaaay too many people living in it) and had been neglected for 7 years.  So there were wires every where and mold on the walls since they didnt run the AC. I took one look and walked out. But DH could see the bones. The house was the biggest we’d seen in our price range and had the right configuration for us (FIL is living with us). Once we had the inspection, they confirmed that all the problems were cosmetic. We had to put a little more money into it at the beginning, but we got a steal. The house next door to us with the same layout, but in better condition sold the same month for $60,000. (Our house price can only go up!) Remember you can always paint and recarpet.
  4. Keep schools in mind, even if you dont plan on having kids. Houses with good schools always sell for more. The neighborhood a few blocks over funnels into a better HS than ours (which isnt bad, just not considered as good). Those houses go for $10,000-$15,000 more than ours.

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