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Booked honeymoon under new name..bad idea?

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    mississippibride    July 15, 2013   Tupelo, MS

    We booked a Carnival cruise for our honeymoon, 3 days after the wedding. We booked it under my "future" name, now I'm thinking maybe this was a bad idea. Anyone have any experience or any idea how to go about getting all of the name changes done correctly in time? Thanks bees!

     
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    fishbone    September 2, 2011   washington, dc

    If you will need your passport for any ports of call, I would call Carnival ASAP and have that booking changed. No way will you have your new passport in time.

     
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    misspeanut    December 10, 2011   Dallas, TX

    Yeah, if it's international and you need a passport, you'll never be able to get your passport changed in time. I would call Carnival to see if you can change that as soon as you can.

     
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    Change it to your maiden name quickly, if you wait to long you might be charged a hefty fee! You won't have any documentation that you are married b/c your marriage certificate will have to be sent to the court and that takes about 2-3 weeks usually after that you'll be able to legally change your name.

     
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    crayfish    September 11, 2010   Berkeley, CA

    You need to change it back!! You won't even have your marriage certificate, let alone SS card, Driver's license, and Passport etc before your honeymoon!

     
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    JenGirl    August 31, 2013  

    If you're going internationally you'll need your passport as ID and it won't get changed in time! So either get Carnival to change the name or go through the hassle of legal name change early (which may or may not be an option prior to the marriage depending on state and is a total pain in the ass)

     
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    LilliePad    April 26, 2014  

    I don't know how cruises work, but if you are leaving the country and need a passport to travel to wherever you are going, it was indeed a bad idea. It will take WAY longer than 3 days to get your name changed legally in most states, and even longer after that to obtain a passport with your new name on it (you have to send things off and have them returned to you).

    If you are not going to need a passport, then I'm not sure. I've never been on a cruise so Im not sure what type of identification they require, but if they are anything like an airline and do require your ID, your ID and your ticket have to have the same name or they will not let you on.

     
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    MeelaMay    December 15, 2012   Scotland

    @mississippibride:  It should be ok, so long as your flights are booked in your own name (assuming you're flying). Just explain everything to them and they should understand. You might want to use your SO's card to pay since his name is probablystaying the same.

    *Edit: Ah, a cruise. I'm not sure how they work. Using your old name would probably be much easier, although it could still be possible to board.

     
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    Pinkmoon    February 14, 2014   Canada

    Yep change it back! You will need your passport so your names need to match. 

     
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    mjwyatt84    March 30, 2013   Las Vegas, NV

    I wouldn't have done that. Especially if there's a passport or flights involved. They are very strict and will not allow you on if names don't match. See if you can swtich it back to your maiden name.

    We aren't going on our honeymoon until the summer and our wedding is in March and I am bummed I can't change my name legally until after we get back because I booked everything in my maiden name because I knew it would be a pain to get my passport changed in time. It stinks.

     
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    SweetMelissa429    April 20, 2013   Knoxville, TN

    @mississippibride:  I'm actually really glad that you asked this question.  We are also doing a cruise for our honeymoon and even though I hadn't thought of what name I would use to book it, this thread has helped me realize that I need to do it under my maiden name.  It's kind of a bummer because it's exciting to get to be Mrs. for the first time, but you definitely don't want to have to worry about anything going terribly wrong because of a technicality.  I'd change it for sure...you need your passport to go on pretty much any cruise nowadays.  Good luck :)

     
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    loving_life    August 4, 2013   California

    Bad idea.  Your passport and identification will absolutely still be under your old name, and won't match your ticket, so you can't get onboard.

     
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    MeelaMay    December 15, 2012   Scotland

    @crayfish:  Why wouldn't they have the marriage certificate? I thought everyone got it as soon as they said their vows and signed the paper (that's what happens here). I would have thought 3 days would be plenty time!

     
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    fishbone    September 2, 2011   washington, dc

    @MeelaMay:  Different states within the US do it in different ways, but with many, you obtain your license in advance, sign it along with the officiant during the ceremony, and then take it back to the courthouse to make it official. I think you get them faster in the UK because most officiants are associated with the council (at least in England they are, so I'm assuming Scotland is the same).

    And the big deal here is not so much with the OP's being able to board the cruise ship; it's immigration laws at any ports of call. In some countries, your name has to match exactly what the passenger manifest says, for them to let you go into port. So it will likely be one of the countries she visits that won't let her in, rather than the cruise ship itself. Airlines are a little different--- your name on their manifest must match the name on the passport-- but that's because they do not want to pay your return transport once you're rejected by foreign immigration checks. A cruise ship is already transporting you back, so in most cases they will let you on. They just won't let you off till you're back home.

     
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    monique1218    April 7, 2012   Lincoln, NE

    You will not have enough time to change your name all your drivers license and passport before your honeymoon. Call them ASAP and pray that they will let you change everything to your maiden name.

     
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    maylove2012    May 19, 2012   Ottawa

    All of your travel documents need to match the name you book your cruise with.

    We actually went on a Carnival cruise for our honeymoon, and I called them to ask about the name.  They said to make SURE the documents match or they won't let you on the ship.

     
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    dkacerek    September 22, 2012   NJ

    you most likely will need a passport or passport card if you are going to international ports.  The names have to match or they will not let you on the ship. Period. 

     
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    dkacerek    September 22, 2012   NJ

    @MeelaMay:  depends on the state.  In NJ, after the ceremony, the signed document has to be recorded in the town the marriage took place, then the official marriage certificate, with raised state seal, is issued, but only by request.

     

     
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    British_Bride    August 9, 2013   Surrey, England

    @mississippibride:  I have done this too but I don't know if it works differently in the US, but over here I can get my vicar to sign a document to confirm she will be marrying us and then send my passport off and get a new one 3 months before our wedding and therfore 3 months before I have legally changed my name.

     
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    oneofthesethings    July 9, 2011  

    Yeah, like PPs have said, you first have to get your marriage certificate (which takes varying amounts of time depending on your county) and THEN send it along with your current passport, a check, etc. to the passport office to be issued a new passport.  That takes a couple weeks.  

    I honestly have no idea how you thought you were going to get that done in 3 days.

     
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    Mrslen    September 29, 2012   Pgh

    I would call and change it back to your maiden name.  I know in my state our officiant gives us our signed certificate the same day, he files the rest if the paperwork with the state later..So I could have gone that day and got a new license etc... But I don't think you want to run around in those few days before you leave, changing your name, it's not fun. 

     
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    mississippibride    July 15, 2013   Tupelo, MS

    @oneofthesethings:  It wasn't a matter of doing it in 3 days as it's not an international cruise. I read in some places that people change their documents ahead of time, that's what I was mainly asking about

     
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    ssilva1    February 9, 2013  

    @mississippibride:  i also booked my honeymoon on a carnvial cruise, and bc we booked so early, they told us we would be unable to change any aspect of what we booked.  Even though i am doing my honeymoon months after, i booked it with my madien name, bc i will not be getting new passport until next year.  They had told me though, that if you had your wedding license it would be fine, even wiith your madien name on your picture ids 

     
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    misspeanut    December 10, 2011   Dallas, TX

    @mississippibride:  You really can't file any of the documents to change your name ahead of time without the marriage license. To legally change you name with social security, you need proof of name change, which would be an executed marriage license. Ours took about 2 weeks to get back after the wedding, but of course states vary. Then you can get the new SS card and drivers license - but even then they would be temporary copies, and I'm not sure how acceptable temporary IDs would be.

    Either way, check with Carnival. If the cruise is not international, they may have a different type of policy regarding maiden/married names.

     
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    Wed2Attn    August 6, 2011  

    Yes, it was definitely a bad idea. You won't be able to change your info until you're actually married. If the name on your passport is "Jane Doe" and your married name is "Jane Morris," you want to do all your bookings with your CURRENT name! 
    It would be a total headache to go anywhere with your new name. Just call them and have them change it.  

     
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    BluePeaches    February 23, 2013   MS

    @misspeanut:  Actually, you can change your name any time you want, not just because you got married or divorced. I've done it.

     

    http://www.ehow.com/how_6306527_change-name-mississippi.html

     
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    yellowshoe    December 2011   Laguna Beach, CA

    @BluePeaches:  but the link you provided says: Before you change your name, obtain copies of any supporting documents, such as a marriage certificate, court order or decree of divorce. 

    So did you have a court order that approved your name change? I have always wondered about this. Since that episode on Friends where Phoebe changed her name. But I noticed when I changed my name in the state of CA that it required some document. 

     

     
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    SapphireSun    July 2010   BC, Canada

    @yellowshoe:  I think it's different for changing your name just because you want to.  I process part of name changes as part of my job, and there's just an application that you have to fill out and get notarized, and then you bring that to me to have your fingerprints done.  I once had a guy who was changing his last name to his wife's (supported by the marriage certificate), but since he was doing the change anyway, also decided to change his middle name to "Danger" just for fun, and he just had to petition that on the application.

     
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    smiles4jo    November 13, 2012  

    We are cruising on our delayed honeymoon in two weeks. By that time, we will have been married for almost 3 months. Despite that, I'm still cruising in my maiden name!  We just got a correct copy of our marriage certificate last week and I really didn't want to have to worry about changing my passport in enough time. If we had been leaving 3 days after the wedding, I would absolutely be cruusing in my maiden name. 

     

    I have been told by Carnival that under the circumstances, if I had wanted to change my name, it would cost $50. Hopefully, you can do the same!

     
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    yellowshoe    December 2011   Laguna Beach, CA

    @SapphireSun:  so it really is as easy as they make it seem on the show! haha That is hilarious that he changed his middle name to Danger!!!!

     
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    beachbride1216    November 2, 2013   St. Augustine

    The honeymoon is the last time you will travel under your maiden name if you plan to take your husband's name.  Generally, you won't have time to change over the documetns necessary for travel like your ID and passport (unless you are traveling a few months after your wedding.)

     
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    Mrslen    September 29, 2012   Pgh

    @mississippibride:  depending on whether your officiant gives you a copy of your marriage certificate right away, you can actually get it done in a day.. Start with the social Security office and then DMV and bank. Wait till after your honeymoon for credit cards, utilities, etc... It's possible. 

     
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    nursemel    October 13, 2012   Scottsdale, AZ

    I got married in October and we aren't going on our honeymoon until March and I still haven't changed my name cause I didn't want to risk worrying about getting my passport with my new name back in time.  I just don't see how you will get it changed in time and why would you want that added stress anyways.  Last thing you are gonna want to do right after your wedding is worry about that.  Just call Carnival and keep your fingers crossed that they will let you change back to your maiden name for the booking. 

     
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    BluePeaches    February 23, 2013   MS

    @yellowshoe:  Yes, I had it changed at a court. Actually, my mom did. For some reason she changed my entire name when I was 8 years old (my older brothers as well), but it was not associated with a divorce or marriage. It was "just because". However, by law anyone can change their name at any time as long as it is not for the purpose of deceit or fraud (which, I guess, they have to take your word for). Later on, I change my name AGAIN on my own and had to get into an argument with the guy at the social security office over this matter, but in the end I got a new SS card with the right name.

     

    I might add that it was changed in MA the first time and TX the second (or maybe it was NM, I don't remember), so I have not had experience changing it in MS, although that is where I currently live.

    I migh

     
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    krstino1012    May 11, 2013  

    Bad Idea - change it back.  If you are going on your honeymoon right after the wedding, you wont have any documents showing your new name.  I booked our cruise under my maiden name - just easier this way.

     
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    madteaparty    June 8, 2013   Brick, NJ

    I would change it back to your maiden name ASAP. There's no way you'll have your name changed in time - SS card, Driver's license, Passport, etc. The only thing you probably will have is your marriage license. Better to be safe than sorry!

     
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    This Time Round    December 2012   Canada / Wedding in the US South over Christmas Holidays

    Ok as a Travel Nut and cruise lover let me weigh in here.

    BOTH the Airlines and Cruise Lines must submit their Passenger Manafests to US Customs & Border Protection / Homeland Security in the hours prior to departure

    So it is IMPERATIVE that when it comes to International Reservations that things match up with what is on one's passport.

    Because this is the ONLY acceptable document that will be accepted to PROVE WHO YOU ARE

    So the requirement isn't really one needed by other countries (as someone else mentioned) BUT the fact that the US itself needs this info, and considers the Passport to be the ultimate form of Identification (most secure / hardest to alter / forge etc)

    *Altho there are certainly instances where folks have found themselves in a similiar situation as you've mentioned (booked in one, passport in the other) the process of proving the whole thing is a potential nightmare... more so if it is immediately after your Marriage, and you don't have the required Legalized Marriage Certificate back from the authorities.  Best therefore to just leave things in your Maiden Name until you have all the necessary paperwork and time to make the change-over and order a new Passport etc.

    Hope this helps,

     

     

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