Post # 1
I have a conundrum and I need some advice!
My Fiance and I are currently living abroad. We’ve been engaged since last September and want to get married next summer in 2013. However, we’re not going to be back in the states until mid-November. I know there is no way to get a venue that I like on that kind of short notice. My mom has looked at a few venues for me and we’ve found one that (I think) we like. I am SO nervous about booking it sight unseen, but we’re not willing to wait a whole year to get married, and we want to do it in the summer (his mom is a teacher and it’s convenient for his siblings). Has anyone booked a venue without seeing it? Would you totally freak out like me? The venue is Duke Gardens in Durham, NC and it does look beautiful…it’s a very popular venue so I know it’s nice, but still…
Post # 3
@Runnat: Normally I would say no way, but in your situation I think you could. If your mom has seen it and you trust her opinion, and you have actual photos she took of the venue inside and out (preferrably not just the nice ones they always show online), and you are able to ask (through email, a phone call, having your mom go in person) all the necessary detail questions… I think it would be okay. You would really have to trust your mom’s opinion and evaluation though, or if you think she might overlook things, maybe have another trusted friend or relative look too. Good luck!
Post # 4
@Runnat: did your mom take a lot of pictures of the venue for you?? can she send you a layout/floor plan of the open space?? does the venue have pro pics of the site set up for a wedding?
we were out of the country when we started planning and i checked out a number of venues on line and by email with a lot of questions. there were too many to choose from. we did fly back and view the venues that i was considering and then planned the rest of our wedding out of country in only 5 months by internet, emails and phonecall. and wedding bee for inspiration.
Post # 5
@mypinkshoes: She did take a lot of pictures. Both of my parents love it, and they definitely know my taste and think I will love it. They’re sending my brother and sister in law there next week to get some other opinions as well. The price is right, and it seems to be beautiful from what I can tell and what they tell me.I just don’t want to regret it!
How was planning a wedding out of country? I am pretty stressed out already because I just want to plan the damn thing but feel like I have no control over it! I know it will work out regardless so I keep telling myself that…
Post # 6
@Runnat: based on your parents’ input, sounds like it will be perfect for you. your brother and sil will let you know too. i would say book it and in november when you go home, arrange a time to view the venue and take pictures and video. maybe even a sketch of the layout. i did that so i could get ideas for decor and set up. i also took a few supplies so that i could do a lot of diy projects from away and then brought them back with me the week before the wedding. i am a control freak but also incredibly organized so everything went smoothly.
feel free to message me if you have any questions about planning from abroad.
Post # 7
@Runnat: Yep my whole wedding and all the vendors were booked sight unseen and most without even conversing other than email (due to the time difference). I just used the internet- flickr is great to find photos of venues and forums expecially finding a local forum specific to the area where you are having your wedding. Everything but one vendor went smoothly but that could happen with an at home wedding anyways!
I think as long as you are organised and select reputable vendors nothing will hopefully go wrong 🙂
Post # 8
I’m in the same situation. My FI’s mom scouted out and signed a contract for our venue. I understand that you’re nervous (so am I) but in this situation, you don’t have much of a choice.
Post # 9
We chose our venue without seeing it. They’ve worked with us and are willing to hold the date we want until I can visit in August, but we basically had to choose without seeing it or else wait a much longer time to find and book something.
I think your circumstances call for just making some decisions with a little more faith and a little less in-person research. Definitely dig around on the internet, and just remember that no matter where you are, it’s your wedding and it’s going to rock.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
We did it! Actually, we essentially signed a pile of dirt. It became a vineyard.
What we saw before we signed: http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/11/25/charlottesville-vineyard-venues/
The result: http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/11/26/charlottesville-vineyard-venues-2/
Post # 11
In your case, I think it’s okay, Your parents have seen it, and can vouch that what they advertise is actually what’s there. I usually say not to book without seeing, but that’s without anyone you trust seeing it. I’d definitely go with your parents on this one, especially since they know what you want!
Post # 12
We did it. We booked two venues (ceremony, reception) here in NYC only to be asked to opt out of both (Labor Day, had offer to rent full venue for full day for charity event) and had to rebook ASAP (planning this inside of 4 months) anso poked at a venue we saw pics of online to grab open slot.
Post # 13
As your mother has gone and looked at it for you, I would say it’s a pretty safe bet. If she hadn’t, then it would be different.
My Future Sister-In-Law was going to book a venue for our nikah (we has a Muslim ceremony earlier in the year) without viewing it and was being a complete stubborn mare about how perfect it was online. Turned out it no longer even existed as the pictures online were of a previous venue. It had been “relocated” to an absolute dump.
But as you’ve seen pictures from it I don’t think you have anything to worry about. I’m sure you can trust your mothers judgement on this one 🙂