Post # 1
Anyone reading any books on marriage and ‘bridging the gap’ between single and married life? I am reading ’emtionally engaged’ and its giving me alot of insight on why some people in my life are acting the way they are during this time. Especially my girlfriends.
I would like to read more books . Do you recommend any? Thanks!
Post # 3
I’ve heard excellent things about The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman and Starting Your Marriage Right: What You Need to Know in the Early Years to Make it Last a Lifetime, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. I have another friend who highly recommends His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley. I personally have read Love & War, by John and Stasi Eldridge and loved it.
ETA: My DH is a pastor and does pre-marriage counseling with couples. He also recommends Love & Respect, by Emerson Eggerichs.
Post # 4
@Glowgirl—I’m intrigued because I’ve seen you respond to a few other posts about girlfriends/BM’s perhaps being upset about the bride’s upcoming marriage. Is this something you’ve come across in that book?
Post # 5
One of my BMs gave me What No One Tells The Bride by Marg Stark having read it herself before her wedding. It’s really good.
Post # 6
Nothing about rushing the gap but we’ve web reading 7 Principles for making marriage work by john gottman and I would highly recommend it. It seems a bit geared towards making your relationship better when rocky it doing well but the principles are still valid and we have benefited by only getting through 3 chapters so far! I also second reading love languages and learning about your own as well as each others.
Post # 7
Books say a lot of things- doesn’t make them true! Just something I like to keep in mind whenever I read a book. For example Vietnamese history books tell a completely different story to American history books inreagrds to the Vietnam war. In the self-help section it is normally the writers bias, experience and opinion that comes across more than anything. This doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the same in anyone elses life.
Post # 8
@jules28: Yes! Its very interesting.
Post # 9
@j_jaye: I like to read thought provoking books. Doesnt mean i agree with everything i read.
Post # 10
I’ve been meaning to read Committed: A Love Story, by Elizabeth Gilbert. She wrote Eat, Pray, Love, which was life-changing for me. I’ve heard Committed is also good, although not as transcendent.
Post # 11
@Brielle: Thx for the recommendations. One of my friends had also mentioned the 5 Love languages, I think I’ll give it a try
Post # 12
I have been reading Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood. Interesting book for Christian Ladies.
Post # 13
I read the 5 Love Languages, it’s an amazing book. 2 of my coworkers have told me it changed their marriage, and they had been on the brink of divorce before reading it. It will help you understand your FI/spouse even better 🙂 Also, even if you’re not a big reader, it is a super short book and a quick read.
Post # 14
@MsVoyageur: A lady at our church actually gifted 5 Love Languages to all the newly engaged couples and as part of our pre-marital counseling we were supposed to read it. I loved it! Reading it with my fiance we would talk about examples in the book and if they pertained to us or not and asked each other questions about our relationship and what makes us feel loved. Very good read!
Post # 15
@Glow girl: Who’s the book by?! I’ve been having friend drama… actually 1 just completely dropped me… hates the fact that Im getting married. Maybe it will help me understand..
Post # 16
I am going to have to pick some of these up!!