Post # 1
The FI and I are very concerned that our reception will be boring. As of right now we think about 60 people will come and a buffet will be served for dinner, but we aren’t having a DJ. Most of the time DJ’s, in our opinion, we have found are quite horrible or just not worth the $400 they request to be at the wedding. So we are thinking about just using an iPod and letting the site manager operating the system for us. We really want to have a first dance together and some more dancing, but we don’t think our families will dance. Our friends don’t dance. God, will it be boring? What can we do to make sure people aren’t bored and dying to leave? Maybe we shouldn’t do dinner??? Then what do you do if the wedding isn’t until 4:30 or 5? People will expect a dinner.
Post # 3
You know — I was really worried ours would be "boring," too, even though we had a DJ. We didn’t have a photo booth, we didn’t have a candy buffet, we didn’t have live entertainment — but it ended up being great. We had so many friends and family together who were happy to see us and each other. Lots of people danced, but those who didn’t just enjoyed good drinks and good food. So try not to worry too much about it.
Post # 4
I am a bit concerned about that too but I don’t care if I’m the only one dancing up there. My FI doesn’t even really dance. I’m going to have a good time even by myself! I am having a DJ though so he can help me coax some others out to dance with me.
Even if you don’t have a DJ, you could still do the cake cutting, the garter toss, the bouquet toss, etc. There’s some pretty fun song ideas out there for those events so you can time them on your iPod playlist and I’m sure people will get in on the action. You could have a bridesmaid or groomsmen help announce these too.
I’m also going to do a games/arts & crafts table for all the non-dancers and kids. His family has a lot of die-hard Sequence players (board game) so I’m going to have a couple games of that and maybe some card games there like Uno, poker, maybe a few others. I’m also going to have some coloring books, crayons, and some puzzles for the kids.
Additionally I’m doing a DIY photobooth with a digital cam + photo printer to use with our guestbook. I’ll have some costume props there so the guests can have fun with that and then use those comment bubble stickers to decorate their printed out pictures and put them in the guestbook.
DJ or no DJ, game table or no game table, I think the people that come to your wedding will be happy just to be there and excited to help you celebrate so I wouldn’t worry about it too much.
Post # 5
See if you could get someone to be like a DJ, my fiance’s sister just got married, and there was no DJ, so once everyone ate, they talked and started leaving since there really wasn’t anything to do. Keep an eye out for when people are done eating and start your dance right then.
Post # 6
Honestly, our family is quite boring but we love then and have a good time when around them–but not for a celebration. At my sister’s wedding people just sat around while her/the hubbie and their friends all danced. Dullsville.
My FI has a VERY small family (like his parents basically) who will probably come. Maybe his two uncles will come (probably not though, very long drive for them) and then his godfather. That’s it for his side. He has some people he knows we might invite if the numbers can stay low but we aren’t sure. My family (dad’s side) left right after dinner for my sister’s wedding and drove the 5 1/2 hours back home! WHAT?! RUDE! My mom’s side is the only have-a-good-time group and that’s like four people. Plus, we both don’t have a lot of friends since we’ve gotten a little older and people go their separate ways. Our friends are quiet. ::sigh:: I’m very unsure about this. I thought about the photobooth idea too, long ago, but I doubt people would do it—so many people don’t like to have their pictures taken.
Post # 7
We’re not having any dancing either, but we are having a board game themed wedding, so our centerpieces will be board games. A lot of brides and grooms set up game tables seperate from the dining tables to give guests something to do.
Post # 8
I was very concerned about our reception being boring as well. We don’t drink or dance, so we didn’t have either of those things at our reception. In fact, we didn’t do a lot of things at our wedding. During the receptions (we had 2- a cake and punch immediately following and a dinner following pictures off-site), we had only visiting among our guests occurring and have received so many compliments on everything. I was worried about not having the bouquet or garter tosses and dancing, but as it turns out, it was not an issue. Our guests had a good time enjoying the food and visiting with each other, and we’ve not heard any complaints over those things that were lacking. Looking back, it was perfectly us.
Post # 9
I’m having a live band and am STILL worried mine will be boring… maybe it just goes with the territory! I mean think about it… how many times have you ever been responsible for entertaining (in my case) 200 people for 5 hours!! Not an everyday situation… so I think its only natural that we will worry about people being bored. My FI doesn’t dance (although he is trying ballroom dancing for me!) and only some of our friends dance, so we’ll see. But I agree with hcritton, even if I’m the only one dancing, I’ll have fun!!!
Post # 10
i’m also worried the reception will be boring/ people won’t dance. i agree with @April2010 that maybe its everyone’s worry because we all usually don’t plan an event to entertain people and we are considerate brides that care about our guests having a good time
Post # 11
That could very well be my issue. My BM said most people who don’t normally dance will at least get out and do some sort of "dancing" since it is a wedding. Here’s hoping!
Post # 12
I recently went to a wedding that was supposed to be held outdoors but was moved indoors (due to inclement weather) literally about 45 minutes before their ceremony. The DJ didn’t have any room to play his music and there was NO dance floor. Although not many people danced, I still had a good time because I was there with friends and we talked and caught up the entire time. I think you will fine!
Post # 13
Can you think of things your guests will appreciate? A reception does not need a DJ to ‘exciting’, but I think some music (even if it’s just background music) would be nice. Think about who is coming and elements they (and you) will enjoy. I know we’ve all been to plenty of weddings where the music/DJ made the wedding terrible.
Post # 14
My greatest fear (next to it raining [our wedding is outdoors]) is a boring reception, because it is such a fear I feel the need to have the whole kit and kaboodle (DJ, photobooth, dessert buffet, etc. etc.). Truth is though… people will have a good time if they are surrounded by alcohol and people they love.
Since you are having a more intimate wedding and have not hired a DJ why not bring games or cards for people? Despite everything else I think I am going to purchase a few smaller games that people can play if they want and a few decks of cards – everyone loves cards so maybe you could just provide that?