Post # 1
OK, this baffles me beyond belief. My best friend just had baby number 3. Sure, on 1 and 2, they hadn’t decided on a name until the last month, but the babies had names when they were born – Peter and Hannah. Baby number 3… Nope. They are both too stubborn to give in. She hates the name he chose, he refuses to consider a different name.
This baby is wanted – they were trying for about a year. They had another baby before and they had a boy’s name and a girl’s name picked out when their daughter was born, so they had a name almost five years ago. They’ve had at least 7 months to find a new name…
Can someone else explain any sort of rational behind how someone can have a baby and NOT have a name for it?
Post # 3
LOL. This might sound silly but before we were even married, DH and I made up a list of names for girls and boys we both liked. Now, we have enough names to cover 7 kids of each gender. Win-win-win.
As for your friend: You’d think if it was a planned child they would have had a name ready. I imagine something will switch on in their minds and they’ll decide on a name neither one of them had even thought of.
Post # 4
I work at a medical call center. We get calls every day from parents who have yet to decide on a name for their newborn.
Sometimes it takes a while before you find something that is right for that particular child.
Post # 5
I met a baby who was 11 days old and still didn’t have a name.
Post # 6
many observant jews don’t share the name until the baby is 8 days old…i know plenty of couples who didn’t decide until the 7th day.
Post # 7
Hopefully, picking a name will be easier now that the baby is born. Its also a sure-fire way to make sure his name will fit him.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s a really big deal- it’s not like it would hurt the baby to not have a given name for a while, since babies don’t realy know their names and are often called by nicknames. It is a little weird, though, that they’re both so stubborn about it that they couldn’t come to a resolution in several months.
Post # 9
I’d like to add that my daughter had a name as soon as we saw she was a girl on the ultrasound. She was Annabelle from week 20 of pregnancy on.
Post # 10
Some belief that you should not name your child until they are born. As mentioned observant jews, they wait to name boys until the 8th day. But, I agree its odd for a child to be weeks old and still not have a name.
Post # 11
As long as they aren’t waiting for the child to ‘name himself’ once he can talk. O.o
But yes, you’d think with 7 months you’d be able to have plenty of adult, rational discussions to either give in or find something new.
Post # 12
Haha, that reminds me of a story. I am a twin, and my parents didn’t know if they were having boys or girls, so they came up with a two of each name. When my brother and I were born, they had a hard time choosing just one boy and one girl name, so our original birth certificates say “Baby Blue” and “Baby Pink”. They finally decided about a week later!
Post # 13
Thank god we had a girl because my husband and I were not in any sort of agreement on boys’ names. If we had a boy, we might still be looking for a name… 9 months later.
Post # 14
Our baby is currently nameless and I’m 30 weeks. We will not pick out one name before the baby is born, she might not look like the name we choose, and I can see it getting more confusing if she doesnt match the names we eventually get on our list.
Post # 15
My husband refused to pick a name for our daughter before he officially met her, he needed to see what she looked like. We had a list with several names, but nothing was set in stone. Once we saw her, it was easier to name her.
Post # 16
Sometimes you just need to know the baby to name it. Sometimes the name you picked doesn’t fit the baby.
My mom loves telling this story: When she was in the hospital to have me, there was another woman having a baby that day, and on her room the baby was listed as “Oh, boy.”
(Last name Oh, baby boy’s name undecided.)