Boss invited herself to my wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Haven’t gotten there yet since I’m a year out… that is awkward! Not sure what I would do. Does she think that no one is invited? If so, you could always tell a *white lie* that because of guest list constraints no one from work is invited, although you would have loved to invite her if you had the opportunity. Ya know, big family, limited bduget, etc. 

Post # 4
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842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lolita39:  you can either not respond at all and let her figure it out when she doesn’t receive an invite, or just tell her it’s a small wedding with only family and close friends. 

Post # 5
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1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m not sure I’d even reply to her (rude and presumptuous) text message to be honest…now that she’s been fired it’s not like you have to deal with her in the office anymore. I think I’d just maintain silence. I have people who assume they are invited to our wedding but I just maintain my line that we are keeping the guest list relatively small. I do have one awkward situation where someone I think of as a former friend assumes she will be invited. I’m just trying to keep my distance for now and if she still thinks she is coming closer to the date I’m going to have to have the awkward conversation.

Post # 7
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918 posts
Busy bee

I wouldn’t even reply to the text.  Just don’t send her an invitation.

Post # 8
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2880 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@lolita39:  some people are really so rude. I would do exactly what you planned to do. She’ll get the hint. I would also not answer her calls because I’d probably have a hard time saying no! Goodluck:)

Post # 9
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1840 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Tires screeching.

I wouldn’t reply.

Rude.

Post # 10
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9092 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, I’d just ignore it.  She’s not your boss anymore, so no need to worry about repurcussions.  She’ll get the hint when the invite never arrives.

Post # 11
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1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lolita39:  Is this not the most annoying thing ever????????????  I mean, WTF. I had 3 people at work invite themselves, and I just don’t know what to do. First of allit’s a DW so I’m pretty sure they won’t come, but it’s the point. So rude. You’re not alone. Since your boss doesn’t work with you anymore, I would just totally ignore her text and not invite her!

Post # 12
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1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@lolita39:  that is insanely rude. I would not respond. If she persues it just be honest and tell her the guest list is limited to close family and friends. If you wont even see her at work and probably wont see her outside of work- I wouldnt worry about it. Some people just dont know how to take a hint. 

Post # 13
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10999 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I invited my then-boss (an SVP) and CEO, since I had worked directly for both of them, as well as my entire (small) department and several others from work.  However, there was another SVP who had been involved in the decision to hire me who did what your boss did. He mentioned on several occasions that he wanted to be invited to my wedding, and, even when he left the company, he told me that he was still planning to come.  I was surprised but very flattered that he and his wife would want to come, so I invited them.

Post # 15
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1881 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

since she isnt your boss anymore I really wouldn’t worry about it. I would text her back and just say “I’m sorry but we are keeping the guest list very small. Maybe we can get together for lunch one day to catch up?” And leave it at that. You don’t want to burn bridges with this woman, you might run into her later in your career. But you certainly don’t need to invite her.

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