Post # 1
So, we have been waiting on an answer from our boss about how many days off we can have for our honeymoon after the wedding. We got the answer. None!
Not only that, she wants us in the office at 9am on the Monday after the wedding. That means that we have to be up and on the boat to come back to where we live at 9am on Sunday morning, which means we have to wake up at 5:30am to get to pack the car and to get to the boat in time, which means we’re going to have to leave our party early which means I want to slam her head against a concrete wall.
If we actually had any work to do I would say OK – but February is a dead-month which is the main reason we chose the date. She is pissed off because we told her she can’t invite people willy-nilly to the wedding, and this is her way of reacting. She is a nasty cow and I hate her!
Post # 3
Honestly, I would quit. She sounds like a petulant child anyway. I know, easier said than done, but seriously, start filling out job applications now. What’s next? God forbid something terrible happens to a loved one.
Talk to your HR department, and check your contract. I wouldn’t necessarily file a complaint with HR right away, but I would check how many vacation days I have, and who technically has the authority to approve them. Then, I would probably write a very polite email to my boss saying “I have X amount of vacation days right now. I will be using Y amount from Date A – Date B. Best, Mrs. S”
If it make you feel any better though, I have a feeling my boss is going to do the same thing to me about a wedding coming up in March. One of my best friends in the world is getting married in Vegas and I’m willing to go from Central Asia, have plenty of vacation days, but have been waiting for weeks for her to get back to me so I can book my ticket. It’s really frustrating, and yes, I’ve also thought about just giving notice for this.
Post # 4
My last Manager told me I couldnt have the day off to go to a friends wedding. I told him straight out, give me the day off or I am calling in sick. He gave me the day off.
I am lucky with my new workplace. I only just started and I told them first thing that I need time off in September and explained why. I have been told its not an issue. But I can’t put the form in until the next roster has been done up which will cover that month. Becaise I work rotating shifts, at this point I don’t know what days I will be working across that period. So anyway, we will wait and see what happens when the time comes. I will be lodging that request as soon as the roster comes out so that someone else doesn’t beat me to the punch.
Post # 5
She is pissed off because we told her she can’t invite people willy-nilly to the wedding, and this is her way of reacting.
Who does she think she is? And is she crazy? Ugh! What right does she have AT ALL to invite anyone to another persons wedding?
I second SutSip! Talk to HR, find out about vacation day procedure, see if there is anyone above her you might be able to plead to, update your resume, consider other jobs…
I can’t possibly believe that you want to work for this woman any longer after this insanity. *hugs* Good luck to you!
Post # 6
I wish we could quit (FH and I both work here). The problem is in Greece at the moment, is we’re lucky to even HAVE a job. Unfortunately things are a little bit different here, we have no HR (Well as the boss she considers herself HR) It’s a small office, and yes she is a frigging nut-job as well as the owner of the place. She keeps going on that she won’t give us a wedding gift, but will sign over the rights of the office to us in 5 years. It’s not going to happen, but she likes telling people that so they think she is amazing.
The only reason we are here is because we can’t find anything else. It is the most demeaning, demoralising job I have ever had. Not being paid on time (I mean MONTHS), erratic office atmosphere, over-demanding hours and workload – especially to the wages we’re paid.
She has just told us that she decided to go on holiday a couple of days after the wedding and that’s why we can’t have a honeymoon. I am so pissed off I am gonig to make sure she gets the message loud and clear. She will be placed at the table furthest away from us, one which doesn’t have a good view of the stage, and is conveniently close to the toilet. And when people ask where we will go on honeymoon I will tell them we aren’t going because she won’t let us have the time off – not even 3 hours on Monday morning so we don’t have to leave our party early on Saturday. Because SHE is telling people we decided against a honeymoon. I may even ask the waiter to spit in any food or drink taken to her.
MSNing my FH now and we’ve decided Frigg her and we will organise loads of little honeymoon weekends for the first year – 6 weekends away in different hotels in another area of Greece. She is NOT going to spoil my excitement, I’m not letting her.
Post # 7
I don’t have anything to say except, she sucks!! I’m sorry she’s ruining this for you, but I’m happy you have the attitude that you’ll make up for it with mini-moons.. don’t let her get to you! As far as putting her the furthest away, etc. could you just uninvite her?
My story is less horrible but basically I found out I would be like 5 hours short from being able to take a honeymoon so I asked my boss if I could *cough* call in sick (I have plenty of sick time just not leave time) and she straight up told me no. I was like oh, okay well I guess I won’t have a honeymoon? And she was like ohh, I’m sorry, that sucks. !!!!
Post # 8
@Cariad: She’s still invited to the wedding?! I would tell her she can’t come at this point! she’s just a miserable cow and shouldn’t be there to bring you down. AND I would tell her “If we don’t get time off after the wedding then we will just call in sick”, I mean, at least for Monday… But I would just call in sick for X amount of days and go on a honeymooon. Screw her. But I would probably quit because there has to be some better job out there, even if it pays less.
Post # 9
Yikes! Unfortunately I understand what you mean…I hear Greece is not in a great place right now…hang in there, it will work out!
Post # 10
She sounds controlling. Tell her no, and take your honeymoon- get a new job without someone to ruin the happiest moments of your life.
Post # 11
Geez. I’m sorry you are going through this. She sounds horrid. Good luck!
Post # 12
We have both been looking for a new job for 3 years, but literally things here in Greece are very very difficult. I would take a lower paid job if there was actually one, but literally there is nothing available.
We disussed un-inviting her, but to be honest the crap we would have to put up with afterwards is totally not worth it. We have 400+ people at the wedding so we won’t really notice her fugly face only when we go to the toilet.
We may save the calling in sick for easter where we’re thinking of going back to my country for a few days and feck her!!