Boss just sat me down for a talk…

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
8389 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@HonoraryNerd:  *HUGS* Maybe this is a blessing in disguise and you’ll find a much better job with nicer co-workers.  Congrats to your FI on his job, hopefully you’ll be sharing similar good news for yourself soon.  Best of luck!

Post # 4
451 posts
Helper bee

@HonoraryNerd:  Ouch. What on earth?  maybe too much perfume?  I’m so sorry. Jobs and co-workers can just be painful. Good luck on finding something else if they let you go at months end. I’ve been laid off before and it wasn’t pleasant. Thank goodness your sweetie is in a comfortable place to support y’all. 

Post # 5
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@SomedaymrsWDS:  +1, I was thinking the same thing. Scents can be nauseating and give me headaches, so I’d rather not smell one all day either. Usually it is HR and not your direct manager who says something like this though. 

OP, I hope you find something better soon! Don’t stress over xmas. Not many companies are looking for people now. Start fresh in the new year and something else will turn up. Hopefully you can get EI until you land something new! 

Post # 6
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@HonoraryNerd: …ugh, what a horrible moment in time!  I’m sorry! 

Post # 7
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@HonoraryNerd:  I myself was once told that I “stunk” by a manager which came as a complete shock to me. I washed my uniform every night and was a very clean person with no pets at the time. One morning while waiting for the bus it dawned on me what she must’ve been referring to. 

Everday at the bus stop there are 3-4 peole who sit around and smoke until the bus shows up. There isn’t that much room to stand so I end up standing around them and just got used to it. I didn’t realize it at first but their smoke smell was staying on my uniform after I got to work and I smelled like I must’ve smoked for hours before showing up.

Post # 8
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry you are dealing with this. It is an uncomfortable position for everyone- you, your co-workers who hasd to raise the issue with the boss, and the boss who had to raise the issue with you.

There are medical conditions that can cause body odor if it is not a simple matter of poor hygiene, or too much/ strong perfume. Did the boss say anything specific? If, in your opinion , it is not hygiene or scent related, I would see your family doctor.

Post # 11
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow, I am so sorry!  I got a knot in the pit of my stomach just reading the headline of your post.  Toxic workplaces are the worst.  I am glad your FI is getting a better job, and I hope something good works out for you in the very near future!!  *hugs*

Post # 12
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HonoraryNerd:  Do you think your boss would have raised the issue if she/he did not believe that it was true?

Post # 13
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

That really is a terrible situation and I feel for you. I will say that I would rather face temporary embarrassment and be told that I smell so I could do something about it instead of having people talk behind my back for who knows how long.

Post # 15
4139 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry, that’s such a hard interpersonal matter to deal with. I used to work in an environment where people stole sales. It’s very frustrating. That being said, I have also worked with people who are unaware of their smell. It’s uncomfortable for everyone. As embarassing as it is, it’s far better to have a manager bring it up than to have people put deodorant and body spray/soap on your desk with mean notes (I say this because I’ve seen it happen). As for the gossip, well, people are asses and they gossip, especially in a competitive environment. It just plain sucks. :/ I hope the embarassment is only temporary and things get better for you 🙂

Post # 16
502 posts
Busy bee

Do you know for sure that they’ve been gossiping about it, or are you assuming the worst because of the stolen sale thing? I work in HR — oftentimes people will bring it up awkwardly with us because it’s a horrendously awkward thing to say right to a person. Obviously people don’t know they smell until they’re told, but how does one go about telling them?? 

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