Post # 1
And told me she’d received complaints that I smell. That’s embarrassing as it is, but I know my coworkers. Chances are they didn’t come to her discreetly and politely. It’s more likely they were talking about it behind my back in a rude manner. She was nice and I know it made her uncomfortable bringing it up, I’m just so upset. Yesterday one of the other coworkers stole my sale and and then I was told they wouldn’t be keeping us on after the month is over. Now this. It’s just been a bad beginning of the week. I thought it was going so well and now the people I thought I was getting along with think I smell bad and were talking about for who knows how long before I was confronted. I just feel.so betrayed and let down. I really liked this job until yesterday. I don’t know what to do now. I know I’ll need to start finding something new anyways, but this one was so great and so promising. Merry Christmas to me…
In lighter news, FI received a job offer IN HIS FIELD making great pay. He starts in January. I’m so proud and excited for him.
Post # 3
@HonoraryNerd: *HUGS* Maybe this is a blessing in disguise and you’ll find a much better job with nicer co-workers. Congrats to your FI on his job, hopefully you’ll be sharing similar good news for yourself soon. Best of luck!
Post # 4
@HonoraryNerd: Ouch. What on earth? maybe too much perfume? I’m so sorry. Jobs and co-workers can just be painful. Good luck on finding something else if they let you go at months end. I’ve been laid off before and it wasn’t pleasant. Thank goodness your sweetie is in a comfortable place to support y’all.
Post # 5
@SomedaymrsWDS: +1, I was thinking the same thing. Scents can be nauseating and give me headaches, so I’d rather not smell one all day either. Usually it is HR and not your direct manager who says something like this though.
OP, I hope you find something better soon! Don’t stress over xmas. Not many companies are looking for people now. Start fresh in the new year and something else will turn up. Hopefully you can get EI until you land something new!
Post # 6
@HonoraryNerd: …ugh, what a horrible moment in time! I’m sorry!
Post # 7
@HonoraryNerd: I myself was once told that I “stunk” by a manager which came as a complete shock to me. I washed my uniform every night and was a very clean person with no pets at the time. One morning while waiting for the bus it dawned on me what she must’ve been referring to.
Everday at the bus stop there are 3-4 peole who sit around and smoke until the bus shows up. There isn’t that much room to stand so I end up standing around them and just got used to it. I didn’t realize it at first but their smoke smell was staying on my uniform after I got to work and I smelled like I must’ve smoked for hours before showing up.
Post # 8
I’m sorry you are dealing with this. It is an uncomfortable position for everyone- you, your co-workers who hasd to raise the issue with the boss, and the boss who had to raise the issue with you.
There are medical conditions that can cause body odor if it is not a simple matter of poor hygiene, or too much/ strong perfume. Did the boss say anything specific? If, in your opinion , it is not hygiene or scent related, I would see your family doctor.
Post # 9
@SomedaymrsWDS: If only. I don’t usually wear perfume. Years of choir put me in the habit of not wearing any smells because people can be sensitive to various sprays. I only use deodorant and that’s unscented too.
Post # 10
@julies1949: I’m pretty sure my coworkers weren’t uncomfortable bringing it up to the boss. There are only 12 people at this store, less than that during any given shift and everyone’s really blunt about everything. It wasn’t a matter of discreetly telling her (assistant manager) or having to seek her out. It really was just talking behind my back.
Post # 11
Wow, I am so sorry! I got a knot in the pit of my stomach just reading the headline of your post. Toxic workplaces are the worst. I am glad your FI is getting a better job, and I hope something good works out for you in the very near future!! *hugs*
Post # 12
@HonoraryNerd: Do you think your boss would have raised the issue if she/he did not believe that it was true?
Post # 13
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That really is a terrible situation and I feel for you. I will say that I would rather face temporary embarrassment and be told that I smell so I could do something about it instead of having people talk behind my back for who knows how long.
Post # 14
@julies1949: For me it’s not a matter of whether or not it’s true, because the problem, assuming it’s not medical, is fixable. What hurts is knowing that I’m the last one to know. I would have rather had a random coworker tell me something discreetly a couple weeks ago than have everyone talk about it for who knows how long until the asst. Manager decided to talk to me.
Post # 15
Sorry, that’s such a hard interpersonal matter to deal with. I used to work in an environment where people stole sales. It’s very frustrating. That being said, I have also worked with people who are unaware of their smell. It’s uncomfortable for everyone. As embarassing as it is, it’s far better to have a manager bring it up than to have people put deodorant and body spray/soap on your desk with mean notes (I say this because I’ve seen it happen). As for the gossip, well, people are asses and they gossip, especially in a competitive environment. It just plain sucks. :/ I hope the embarassment is only temporary and things get better for you 🙂
Post # 16
Do you know for sure that they’ve been gossiping about it, or are you assuming the worst because of the stolen sale thing? I work in HR — oftentimes people will bring it up awkwardly with us because it’s a horrendously awkward thing to say right to a person. Obviously people don’t know they smell until they’re told, but how does one go about telling them??