Post # 1
I haven’t been attending mass (I had some issues with the church) so I haven’t been a registered member to any parishes. However, now that I am engaged, it would mean a lot to me to have my marriage blessed by the Catholic church.
It seems that I may not be married by my parent’s local parish because my grandparents and relatives do not agree with my decision of a smaller wedding. (FYI. The FH is non-Catholic; we will take pre cana classes; we are not living together) So, I could not ask the priest there to pick a side.
Do you know of a more liberal Catholic church that won’t mind that I am not a registered parishioner?
Post # 3
Can you ask the parish where you were baptized or confirmed to bless your marriage? They keep records. I know because we had to have my records sent from the church I was baptized at to the church I’m getting married at.
Post # 4
Well, you can just call a parish and join. A lot of parishes like you to be a member in order to have the wedding there. I am a member of Gate of Heaven in South Boston, and it was as simple as making a phone call. I’m not getting married there, but they gave me a letter saying I was a member of that Church so that I could get married at my parent’s Church.
I think the bigger roadblock might be that your Fiance isn’t catholic.
This website is pretty informative. http://catholicweddinghelp.com/index.htm But I think you’d have to join somewhere and then kind of call around to different Churches and get specific info, each Church is different.
Post # 5
@KateyBC: I’m marrying a non-Catholic and the only thing that is different is that the priest has to fill out a different form. My uncle is a Catholic priest and he will be marrying us. The form has to be approved of course, but there are rare instances when a non-Catholic marrying a Catholic is not approved.
The form asks about the background, what religion the person sees themselves as, and one of the more important questions on the form is if the couple is getting married in order to have children and that they promise to raise these children Catholic.
Post # 6
@MapleMoose: You were very informative! Thank you! My bff married a Protestant at St. Mark’s (in Dorchester) and it went without a hitch.
@KateyBC: I’ll call around then. My FH is in CT while I am in Boston. It might be hard to convince a parish that I’ll join but may relocate? I guess, I’ll have to see. I’ve never seen the website during my google searches. Thank you for the link!
Just for the record, I plan to attend church frequently once I’m married and settled.
Post # 7
I don’t know how far north from Boston you’re willing to travel, but we joined St. Patrick’s in Stoneham when we moved here and we are getting married here in July. They are a VERY open minded and forward thinking church and we LOVE it here. We were able to call and “join” so that we could get married here. They will marry you if your FH is not a Catholic. We just had pre-cana last weekend and one couple was interreligious. You can be married by a Deacon and have a marriage rite ceremony, which is actually what we are doing. Deacon Frank is AMAZING. Good luck!
Post # 8
Something to keep in mind is that any Catholic church will require you to have a letter of permission from your “home parish” to get married there. That means that you will have to register with a parish in order to get married in the Catholic church, even if it is not the church where you end up marrying. (If you get married in your home parish, you do not need a permission letter, though you would obviously need to be a registered parishioner).
I know that the Cathedral of the Holy Cross in Southie allows non-parishioners to be married there, but you have to bring in your own priest.
My home parish while I lived in Boston was St Mary’s in Brookline (it’s on Harvard Ave, towards the Brookline Village end, and the 66 stops about a block away). Father Brian is great, and the parish has an active young adults group. Fr Brian did my permission letter for my wedding (in South Bend).
I’m kind of a church-geek, and have been to masses all over the city, so depending on your neighborhood and what you are looking for in a church, I probably have a recommendation.
Post # 9
I was able to to contact Blessed Mother (aka St. Margaret’s) and Fr. Huy said that they are more than happy to marry us. This was the church that I grew up in and attended CCD classes; and, my sisters and I have all received penance/communion there. So, I’m thrilled that the church will have us. // As for my local church, the fr. has contacted me but due to the family drama, I can’t have him marry us. My grandparents are livid that the FH won’t convert.