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oiy. How close are you to the sisters? How sad would you be if other family/friends couldn't make it?
Is there another option - to have the wedding not on a cruise where everyone can make it???
I agree janna19 how close are you with the sisters? How sad would you be if they weren't with you? That's really what I think it would come down to for me.
Yeah, I think it depends on how close you are to your sisters. For me, personally, my sister and I are SO close, so I would have re-arranged our wedding for her if something prevented her from coming. I do have really good friends that I've known for a long time, but I usually choose family over them when it comes to these types of things.
But everyone's different, so it really depends on what YOU want.
Well we are not very close with his sister however she has a new man that she is having the baby with and it would be fun to cruise with them.
I am close with my sister and really want her there but it is also important that we cruise with a large group. That is why it is so hard to decide.
Moving everything up to May would make things very stressful for us.
Can you do the ceremony right before you leave for the cruise so that your sisters can be involved?
based on what you have said, it *seems* to me like you would rather stick with the october plan and are only considering others so as not to offend your sisters. Do what makes you most happy, everyone will understand
If it were me I'd make the wedding sooner or later, but not get married without the sisters!
Are you sure they'd want to cruise in May? If they aren't feeling well, or get motion sick, they may not even want to go then, as you can't take dramamine (guessing). I'm due in August and know I wouldn't want to go on a cruise anytime soon!
Are you dead set on a cruise? I think a regular DW would be more suitable IF you really want to include your sisters. According to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, the safest time to travel is from 18 to 24 weeks. HTH!
Hmm I think the cruise option might be out for you guys because I don't see them wanting to cruise while pregnant especially during the time that they will be having morning sickness. Also I can't see them wanting to go on a cruise after the babies are born. Think leaving an infant home with someone else probably not an option and it would be hard to take an infant on a cruise.
If you do the ceremony at home you probably won't get a good turn-out because people will go to the ceremony and not on the cruise.
You do realize that August-October is peak hurricane season in the Caribbean, right?
Oh good point Kittyachi- And my mom has been on a Caribbean crusie once in Jan and once again in Feb and it was huge waves the boat rocked really bad. My mom who has been on lots of cruises said it was really bad and wouldn't take a cruise again during that time of year.
Most cruise ships that you get married on actually have to perform the ceremony on the ship before it leaves port. Guests are allowed to board the ship for the ceremony and reception and then dissembark before the ship leaves for the cruise.
My friend just had her wedding on the ship, it was a lot of fun. She had about 100 people for the wedding and about 80 stayed for the cruise.
Good points cannotwait and vintage! I am due in August and the last thing I would want to do is cruise...and once they have the babies it will probably be a good 6 months before they would think about taking their babies with them....
I've cruised during hurricane season several times with NO problems so don't let that discourage you. I actually like it better then in the dead of summer. Is the cruise leaving from a local port that the sisters can drive to? If so I would keep it in October and have everyone come to the ceremony and the pregnant sisters (and anyone else) can disembark. That's seems like the best compromise to keep your costs where you want them, your date, and their attendance. You would just have to hope that no one goes into labor!
No. they are in Ca and Texas and the cruise leaves from Florida so that option it out.
guess what: Just found out another very close friends is pregnant.. Due first week in Oct. too.. Babies everywhere...
So here is the best part. My fiance and I have been together for 10 YEARS. We have 3 kids and when we finally decide to take the pludge on our 10 year date everyone gets pregnant./ you have to be kidding me. This seems like a BAD joke.
We wanted to spend the wedding money on a cruise that everyone could enjoy. ( especially our kids)
Our total cost will be about $10,000 which is great for a 7 day drip for a family of five plus a wedding. If we do a wedding at home it will cost that just for the one day and as a mom of 3 I feel a bit guilty spending that money on one day.
( yes I know it is a special day but a week vacation for my kids with our special day in the Grand Cayman just seems so much better)
Any other ideas?
I think since it is on your 10 year you should stick with your original plan...have a great mock celebration when you get back. If you have had your date set, then they should've been a bit more careful...my sister-in-law knew my wedding date, so she has made sure to be careful and is going to continue growing their family after the wedding. Your 10 year is precious and it's sad that you have to be concerned with all of them when clearly they aren't as concerned about you. I would stick with your original plan...it's about you and your man and your family you have had together.
My only opinion is that cruises in October are cheaper because it's hurricane season and the ship is usually detoured and you typically miss one of the port visits to avoid a hurricane. You'd probably have a better time in May.
Why not leave out of a port a little closer to home? I know there are a few that go out of LA and/or TX. That way maybe some can be there to celebrate. Is there a reason you want to get married on the cruise ship? What about doing a smaller/low key wedding at home (all involved) and then brining your 3 kids with you on like a honeymoon cruise.
Could you move it to like January of February, where cruise fares are still low? I've cruised a lot and I know how dramatic the price differences are depending on season, so I feel your pain. Prices also start to go down in August and September. Could you do like late August or early September? This is a tough one!
Thank you for all the feedback.
We are paying for everything ourselves and do not want to spend more then $10k on everything including a week vacation. I know to many of you that sounds crazy but as a parent who has just gone through the financial meltdown in our country I do not want to spend more then that.
For under $10k we can take 5 on a week cruise in the carribean and get married in Grand Cayman and hold a private dinner on the ship for 20 people and have a open bar 2 hours reception.
I have been shopping prices and can not find anything close to that. If we do a local wedding we will have 50-90 people attend. Just for a nice dinner it will cost $3000-$5000 Add in reception, ceremony, etc. it goes into the $10k range with out a 7 day vacation for my family.
Just sharing.. I really love the feedback on this site..
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We are planning a destination wedding on a cruise. We have 3 kids and want to make our wedding a week long vacation.
We planned on going in Oct. to teh Carribean since prices are less then. We believe with the time notice many of our friends and extended family will take the trip with us.
Now his sister and my sister both just got pregnant. They will both be due in Sept/Oct. so NO cruising for them.
Do we keep our plans and get married without them?
Do we change to May? It will be very stressful to plan a wedding so fast and most of our friends/extended family will not be able to make it then. but our sisters will.
HELP... Any ideas? We do not want to cruise in Summer as prices are double and with a family of 5 we need to keep the costs down.