Both of us working our asses off…

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

gingerkitten:  My husband works two jobs, usually double-shifts six to seven days a week. I teach as my regular job and tutor on the side, so my hours aren’t nearly as grueling as his, but I am looking for another job too, to supplement our income. We have a lot of medical bills to cover and other expenses. It’s rough, for sure. It’s hard when you barely see each other, and I feel guilty that he works much longer hours than I do. I think a lot of couples go through this, and like everything else, you just work through it one day at a time. You just can’t get overwhelmed. And you also just really cherish and enjoy the time you do have together. Remember that it won’t be like this forever! 

(And as an aside please thank your husband for everything he does, and a thanks to you as well–I was just telling my husband I don’t know what I’d do if he wanted to be a police officer or fireman. The stress of me worrying about him would be a lot to handle.)

Post # 3
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

gingerkitten:  This is my husband and I this summer. He doesn’t make a lot of money, so he is working every saturday to increase his income. I make decent money, but I am also working extra to put towards home repairs. We try to find a happy balance. I’m not trying to work my life away. A lot of times we forgo more expensive nights out for a picnic in the park or pizza and a movie at home. Just as long as we are together is what matters.

Just out of curiosity, what are your big dreams?

Post # 5
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We are going through the same thing aswell at the moment, and I feel quilty I work less then fiance as he can work anywhere from 55-70 hours a week and he is working evey single day between now and our wedding 🙁 it is super hard for me to not see him but I am so honoured to be marrying such a hard working man who would do anything for us.

Post # 7
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

gingerkitten:  Yep–I know that type! My husband is the same way, not touchy-feely at all. And when he gets home, he goes straight to the TV and computer to check out the baseball scores. It took a while for me not to get too upset about that because I realize that he works hard and that’s how he unwinds. But we always watch a movie together every night, no mater how late he comes home, and we talk about our day and stuff during that. I try to do little things to show that I appreciate him, too, even if it’s to pick up his ‘chores’ or whatever. I know it’s rough now, but it’ll get easier–I promise!

Post # 8
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

I understandt this!. This is the first year of my working life when i only have one job/obligation since i was 15.

No we are both in security but have ben lucky enough to finally have jobs that work the same days, mon-fri and both during the day.. we both avarage 50-60 or more hours per week and were having every weekend together but ive come to a hard realisation that i need to pay off my debts fast and so i have put my hand up for overtime.. so now im looking at 62hrs

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My husband and I are in this situation now. He makes good money and I make decent money, but we have a lot of things we want to save up for, and both of us can basically work unlimited overtime if we want it so that’s what we’re doing. He worked five 10 hour days last week, and worked 8 hours on Saturday. I worked 60 hours this week, including 13 hours on Saturday. We’re both back to work at 6 am tomorrow morning. Both our jobs involve a lot of manual labor so we are really busting our asses all day. It sucks because when we get home from work all we want to do is eat, sleep and chill out. But when we see the extra money coming in every paycheque and stash it away into our savings accounts it’s worth it. We try and make sure that we take time out each week to go on a date, and to spend time connecting every day, even if we just want to crash. We’re both in our early 20s, and want to build up as big of a nest egg as we can before we start having kids in a few years. We are also planning on doing some travelling before having kids, and we are both really looking forward to that. Sometimes it’s tough, but I just think of the benefits we will have in the future because of our hard work and that makes it worth it to me.

Post # 12
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

gingerkitten:  Those sound like awesome goals. Congrats on your real estate job! Hopefully it will lead to bigger and better things.

I’m not enjoying home nownership TBH. I think I made a mistake when I bought my house. My mortgage has gone up almost $100 in the last 3 years due to taxes. I guess that is a good thing because my property value has increased, but I’m getting really irritated with it. I also miss having a land lord to call when something breaks or needs repaired. Let me know when you get your rental home, maybe I’ll be your first tenant, lol.

Post # 14
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5228 posts
Bee Keeper

gingerkitten:  I live in a semi rural area, but it got really hit when the housing market crashed. It is starting to come back, so I may see a substantial increase in my home value, so that is a good thing. I guess I’m just irritated with all the renovations. I knew it was going to need work, but I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel, and if I do see a light, it will end up being a train…..as in wreck . Last year we had our bathroom redone, but the guy did a crappy job, so I have to have it all done again…..I want to go bury my head in a pillow just thinking about it…ugh.

Once everything is done, the house is going to be awesome though. It is a really neat house with a neat history. It was built in 1850. It is actually very solidly built, it just needs cosmetic upgrades. My yard is actually really awesome. I have cherry and pear trees, as well as a grape arbor. I also have a frog pond that is really fun 

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