Both SIL's not attending my baby shower. Feeling sad.

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I completely understand where you are coming from none of my SIL’s made it to my baby shower.  1 lives out of state so that was excusable, 1 don’t really talk to, and the other decided her and then toddler go on a trip prior to going to the same place trip wise before the whole family trip.  Yeah I was not happy about it.  

You live and learn and just play nice when you have to.. least that is what do on my end.. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe they just don’t like the idea of attending a baby shower? Baby showers are fairly new here in Australia, and perhaps they see it as low importance. Also, if the guests are mainly your friends, they could be thinking it’ll pretty boring for them.

This doesn’t excuse their other behaviour, but I wouldn’t worry too much over a baby shower.

Post # 5
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42453 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only thing you can do is change is your expectations. We all have this vision of one cozy family, but for many of us, that is never going to happen.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m sorry you feel sad! My ILs didn’t come to my baby shower, either. I enjoyed spending time with just my family and friends!

Post # 7
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6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

This really sucks.  Well i’d probably talk to my brother first.  Make sure you haven’t done something that she took wrong and see if there is some way to fix it.   I’d do the same with MIL about that SIL.  Sometimes people hold grudges over dumb things and you may not even know if you did or didn’t do something.  

Good Luck and have FUN at your shower!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Depending on the job, work is usually a decent excuse. I work Tuesday through Saturday and I’m the only one in on Saturday so it’s the most difficult day to take off. Ideally I have to pre-pick it a year in advance. Depending on why I need it, I can sometimes ask for a switch but I don’t want to take advantage. I could probably do it for a wedding but I’d rather not do it for a shower, and certainly not a birthday lunch. 

Of course, there have been times that I loved having work as an excuse to miss an event. 

But yeah, some people just suck. Just because they’re family doesn’t mean they have to be friends. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Try to focus on the friends that are attending.  My SILs didnt come to my bachelorette.  I threw a baby shower for one SIL and my guess is she would probably pass on my baby shower, if I had one, lol.

 

 

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